How do i get a capricorn man back? I was recently ...

Honey, there is more in your life to focus on than this boy.

To start with, if you have not yet gotten your period then you MUST get a pregnancy test just to make sure that you did not get pregnant.

I know you said you used protection, but protection is not infallible and accidents CAN happen.

You can purchase an at-home test or go to Planned Parenthood to get tested (they will not inform your parents).

Next, your zodiac signs have very little to do with this situation. I know you want to believe that they play a major part in the success or failure of relationships, but at this stage of your life the role they play is very minimal.

At this point, the factor which most influences the success of a relationship is the two people involved in it.

Here's what I think:

~ You are too young to focus on one boy. At 13, the maturity level between you and a 15 year old is an ocean apart.

~ Your relationship with your parents is important. Lying and sneaking in order to get what you want will only lead to more trouble and a lack of trust.

~ Thirteen is very young to be having sex. Even with protection, the possibility of pregnancy exists. Very few teens your age (and his) are ready to be parents.

~ You already lied to this boy about your period in an attempt to keep him. Relationships based on lies are never successful. Trust is an important foundation of any relationship, and you have already shown that you are willing to overlook it.

Hon, you were only with this boy for a month. But from what I can tell from what you wrote, he sounds like a pretty good guy. What he has done (and told you) is the right thing.

I know you don't want to hear it, but it's the truth.

This does not mean that the two of you may not get together later on in life, but now is not that time.

Dear Ruby:

 I am a very young and hip mom, my daughter is your same age, that's why it was so sad for me to read your post or rather to hear about your situation and your concern for the wrong cause! I don't want to discourage you from using resources such as this site for answers to things you consider important in your life, I certainly don't want to insult you either, but as a mom, I feel the need to give you my most honest and responsible answer!

It is obvious that this boy is more mature than you are, regardless that he is older than you (women usually mature earlier than most men, especially at early stages in life), but perhaps his astrological sign has to do with it, if that's what you want to hear about, I must say Capricorn is the most serious sign in the entire zodiac!! by serious I mean that when they make a decision, they are rarely persuaded from it! Now, I know this boy must be very important for you, especially because of the way you explained your reason for loosing your virginity with him! but I have to admit that what he is doing is the most advisable thing you two can do right now, after what has already happened!I say this for various reasons, and most agree with his logic: you should listen to your mom and avoid misunderstandings with her, if loosing your virginity couldn't be avoided, at least you should avoid getting pregnant! at your age, even with "protection" chances are that your inexperience (and your partner's ) leave plenty of room for errors! This is very serious & dangerous! Aside from fearing an unwanted pregnancy @ your age, I must warn you against STDs, they don't discriminate! you won't know who has any or not, also many young kids nowadays are products of HIV + parents and are therefore born with the virus!! this is so scary because they don't show any signs and may not even know themselves they have it! I KNOW THIS FOR A FACT! IT HAPPENED IN MY FAMILY and the kid has been adopted by foster parents, nothing I can do! On the other hand, I just want to tell you that the best friend you will ALWAYS have is your mom! She will only do & tell you what's best for you...she doesn't want anything bad for you, but the very best! TRUST her, or trust any higher force you might believe in because it is true! Please try to learn from this experience, love and value yourself b4 you pretend anyone to do the same 4 u!

One last thing:"Everything in our lives, happens for a GOOD reason! ALWAYS!" even if @ 1st it looks otherwise..trust me on this one! I hope you retain most or some of this valuable information I just gave as if you were my own daughter, from the bottom of my heart! I know this is more reality of life than most parents want to accept, but I still believe that education is prevention! It is not that parents are "old-fashioned" it's that we are indeed "wiser" because, obviously, we have been where you are now, but you have not been where your parents are! so just listen, accept their wisdom, and as you mature then learn to make your own decisions! you don't always have to agree with your parents, but if you learn to listen to them, chances are you are making the most educated decision! Be good, I wish you the best and that you understand why things have to be this way...for now! You have your life ahead of you, there will be plenty of time to do it all!  Please, contact me should you ever feel confused or in need for guidance again! It was a pleasure! sorry, my answer was also long as your question!

I'm really glad 4 u Ruby!! Enjoy ur life the safe way!! and if you are ever confused again, ASK quetions (silently or out loud) to yourself and TRUST your instincts for the answer, look @ your body 4 clues!! this might sound weird 2 u, but it's the truth, I just gave my daughter, the book of THE SECRET! sh eis reading it and finding many answers to her 13-yr-old-body questions!!  perhaps you can too!! Good luck! Keep in touch!!