Hi, do you think 20 is to young te get married ...

Hi Butterfly,

   Getting married is a beautiful thing if:

1.  Both of you are established in your careers and are both financially stable to be able to afford to raise the children that you will bring to this earth.  With everything very expensive nowadays, do you have the financial capability?  At 20 I doubt that you have a stable job that brings in good money.

   Love is not everything.  Once you will have to struggle to survive, love is going to fly out the window.  You will start fighting and possibly end up in divorce.  Money problems is one of the big causes of divorce.

  Don't you think at your young age that you should try to go to college and finish a course?  That way later on you will be able to afford to have several children without being a burden to the State.  I have seen a lot of people your age rushing into marriage and end up receiving everything from the government, from free hospitalization during delivery, free formula, free housing,  and WIC . Other working people are paying taxes just to pay for everything that the State gives (free dole-outs) to teenagers who are not responsible financially.  That does not seem to be fair, is it?

  So my answer is:  You are far from being ready to get married at your young age.

Trust me, if you both love each other you can wait. Don't be in such a hurry. You both have your whole life ahead of you. I can bet you this is your first boyfriend. I remember those days. Get your life set financially and see if it is meant to be. Good Luck

Dear Butterfly,

I am currently 17 and i have been engaged for about a month. My fiance and i finally picked a date to get married, we are getting married next year. At that time i will be 18 1/2. So my answer is no i do not think 20 is to young. Just make sure you are getting married for the right reasons. Which im sure you will.

Good Luck =)

*~*anastasha*~*

Hell ya it is to young to get married !! U don't even know what life is about yet or if what U feel for your guy is really Love or not .. Iam not saying that it cant be Love either so dont get me wrong ok.. What Iam saying is that when U are young U think with your heart and your emotions becouse Love is a very strong emotion..But U need to learn to think with both your heart and your mind togeather then U will make the right choice ok..Why the rush to get married in the first place ??..If it is true Love then it will still be there forever..U need to ask your self some questions first to find out if this is a true and ever lasting Love..Like are U 2 best freinds?? Does he allow anyone to disrespect U in front of him?? Do U trust him with your life?? Do U lie to each other about anything at all?? That dont ask dont tell thing is bull shit so it to is lieing..Do U 2 spend your free time with each other?? Do U treat him as good as he treats U/ or visa virsa?? When U 2 have disagreemnets do U with hold your Love from each other?? Do U keep score on who is right and who is wrong or who did what to who??..See all those little things in life is where TRUE LOVE IS FOUND!!! Do not settle for anything less or U might find your self very unhappy..Good Luck!!!   Peace...TLA