I hate to sound mercenary, but please contact an attorney before you think about leaving your house. Do you have the original closing statement that shows the house in your name without him on it? If you do not have on, try calling your attorney from that original closing (or the mortgage company) and see if they have a copy that you can have. Another source would be you taxes from that first year as there were probably deductions that you could have taken and so a copy may be attached. Are you sure you had another deed drawn up when you all refinanced? They usually just put the mortgage in both of you names and that does not generally affect ownership. He may even have signed the promissory note (which only makes him responsible for payments). Even if you did have a new deed done, if you get the paperwork I suggested and take it to your attorney, they can prorate the amount you would have to give him for share of a share of the house. Secondly, don't ever turn your back on your family and friends, even to keep the peace. Angelkiss was right. Isolating a victim is high on the abuser "to do list" in a new relationship. How else can he convince you that you deserve nothing and that you have to take his abuse because you think that you deserve that? They cannot do that as easily if you have family around to watch out for you and to remind you that you are loved and have great worth in this world. And good for you that you were able to step back and see what he was doing with you and your daughter. When you get up tomorrow, call an attorney and ask him about the house and see what can be done to get your husband out of there. I was able to change the locks on my door and require notice when he was coming over so that I could have someone else here "hanging out" when he came... you have most likely noticed that he is nicer with others around so make sure that you use that to your advantage. Finally, please see a counselor to help you deal with the feelings you are having and the abuse you have suffered. Take care and God Bless you.