Am I wrong about my thinking

You are to be admired for bringing up your daughter to adulthood with positive values despite what she saw in her father. I would personally like to see you free of this man who is akways so angry; if not with your daughter then he will find something else to anger him and to blame. You have too much to offer this man that could be shared with someone who is more mature and caring. Do not degrade yourself you have shown yourself to be a good and caring person. No one has the right to tell you to separate from your daughter.

if he was a good caring man,he would love your daughter and not try to always start fights over her!he seems to me,to be selfish and only caring about himself!ask yourself.do i deserve this kind of treatment?don't i deserve sby who will love me and my daughter?do i deserve to be called names,by ANY man?NO!!you deserve to be happy and have sby who loves YOU and not just theirselves!your daughter needs her mother,and if anybody tries to come between the two of you,doesn't deserve to be with you!start standing up for yourself and get rid of him!you deserve better!

Well,

From the way you phrased your question, I think you are looking for people to say you are right and he is wrong.

Reality is probably much more complex.

I think you certainly have done a good job at raising your daughter.
Questions for you:

- Why do you feel you have to stick up for your daughter ?

- How is it that you are with a man who "calls you names"?
- Do you think it is normal for couples to "fight" ?
- What do you get from living with an emotionally abusive man?

- Realistically, what are the risks that you would loose your daughter?  

If you care about your relationship with your husband, I suggest you locate a good couple therapist in town, wherever it is that you live, and start working with him on making your marriage work. - ASAP
I would suggest you find a Jungian Therapist - if there is one anywhere near you.

Another way to deal with this of course, is not to deal with it. Which typically does not end well. 

Stay safe & Good Luck. 

I hate to talk badly about your husband but he's a dick.  Your a nice person and he is not.  Your happy go lucky and he dwells on the negative and worse looks for a victim to blame it one, lord knows it would be his fault.  His misery is causing you pain and worse putting a distance between you and your daughter.

The way I see it, your daughter was there first, and when he met you he should have accepted your role and appreciated your relationship with your daughter.  He married you thinking he could change it or at least get in the way of it.  He's selfish, he's mean spirited and certainly alone could not be as bad as being housed under the same roof with that monster.

Your daughter needs you in her life, she doesn't however need to feel like being in your life is going to cause her or you complications.  Your obviously a wonderful mom, so do what you think is best with you and her in mind first.  I would have little consideration for your husbands feelings given the consideration he's shown you.

I wish you luck and please know that you have my support to do your self a favor and lose the dead weight.  You are loving with lots to give, don't let him teather your strings any longer.