Am I wrong! Am I needy! Please help me out!!!

      There is always a certain amount of dependency within a relationship. For a relationship to succeed  each must be able to depend on the other to maintain the integrity of the relationship. Also each must be empathetic to the other's needs. One must also appreciate and love themself.

     Communication is everything within a relationship. The healthy balance of a relationship depends on communication. You are feeling "needy" because there is a lack of communication. You might consider "stepping" beyond your fear and simply initiate a conversation about how you feel and your ideas about the state of your relationship. This is important. Not talking about it will only make things more challenging. By talking he might become aware of things that he had been oblivious to. He may also begin to understand the importance of this relationship.

     Have confidence in yourself. Trust yourself and know that your feelings are valid and important. Communication takes practice....practice....practice. He must respect your feelings and needs. If he is not willing to do this then you must take care of yourself. You are capable and you can find your inner strength. Be good to yourself, and accept nothing less than respect and honorable behavior.

                            With Kind Regards,

                                                   Daniel

I think that he doesn't love you like he use to.  Personally, I would break up with him and find a guy to hang around with to make him jealous.  It's just like the song......You don't know what you've got, til it's gone.  You would also find out if he really loves you or not.  Don't break up in a fight; just doing in like you two are having a civil conversation.  This is where you will find out if he's really into you or not. 

Best of Luck and be strong girl!

It's normal to feel this way and definantly doesn't make you needy.I think you are on a completely different level than him- maturity wise. He seems like the type of guy that likes to go with the flow and doesn't worry about things too much or like to talk about anything serious. I once dated a guy like this..was hoping he would grow up and learn to open up at least a little..but that never happened. This could just be the way he is and always has been. I don't think it has anything to do with him not loving you because I believe he does. It's hard to change someone who is not affectionate & emotional especially when they don't like to communicate or are not good at expressing themselves. All you can really do is let him know you would like him to put more effort into the relationship and make you feel wanted & needed every now & then. It's not asking too much. Express to him what you have expressed to us in this question and see if anything gets through to him

The problem is you have needs not being met.  Your boyfriend is indifferent; I suggest you do this.  Back away.  Let him come to you, let him call, let him plan, and if he doesnt like it than you can discuss his problems and the fix.  You may not be happy with the drill but if he wants to keep you he will come to you, make plans and wish to fulfill your needs.  If not than move on.  I believe a guy in love should give the girl whatever she needs within reason; wish to make her happy.  If he does than she will fulfill his needs.  I believe this.

I agree I dont think he is in this relationship like you are. how can you love someone and not spend every possible moment together?. has he shown any other signs that he may have someone else in his life?that could be why he is indifferent to you. maybe he knows if he tells you the truth it will break your heart and he doesn't want to do that. you can't change someone and obviously you have been trying for 2 years and still nothing. step back and let him come to you. you never know what you have till it is gone.

I think you're over reacting. It sounds like your bf thinks you're better at making plans and leaves it up to you. I think he's just reassuring you that you two are cool when he tells you not to worry.

Hi Gina,

    I was carefully reading your notes.  I don't think you will like my answer.  I believe in the saying that actions speak louder than words.  A man who truly loves a woman would initiate and would show his love and caring for a woman.  Yes you show your love for him.  This relationship seems one-side.  You two don't seem to be compatible. 

    If I was in your shoes, I would talk to him and ask him what he really wants in life and if you are a part of his future.  That's the only way you'll know.  Please don't settle for a man who does not seem to care.  You deserve better.  You are not needy.  You found a man who don't meet your needs.

    Take care and I hope that you will wake up and realize that he's not the right man for you and that you still has a chance to meet a good man who will reciprocate your love.

Take care and God Bless.

First question are you sure he loves you, think. It sounds like hes has lost interist in you and is trying to distance himself away from you, always the first sign. If he is truley in love with you he would be concerned about how you feel and what your needs are. It was probably like that when you first met. What you need to do is back off from him and go out and do some thing with out him with your friends, go on a date. Give him something to think about, like what hes is losing ( YOU) Just try this for a few weeks and see how things go. If he doesnt change it might be that he might have someone else on his mind. Just remember there is always someone who would love to treat you  the way you would love to be treated and respected. Everyone needs to be loved and pampered. Life is to short to not be loved. Hope this helped.