I'm not wrong! Right?

Okay so I'll put a few questions in one.

Question 1: I'm an almost eighteen year old guy dating a barely fifteen year old guy who like just started puberty, he definitely still has a boys body, does having sex with him make me a pedophile?

 

Question 2: He didn't want sex at all, he wouldn't even let me see him naked ever! He thinks he's too young to have sex, so he refuses, but I ended up telling him I'm breaking up with him because he won't have sex with me, and I pretended to date someone else to make him jealous, but he ended up not talking to me for a day and then made out with me while crying when he came to my house the next day, he said he'd have sex with me, but he didn't want to, he said he was scared of it etc. and how he is too young, he even said he'd work out more so he'd get a more mature body (When I broke up with him, during the fight I told him that I'd never have sex with a boy who has such an immature body...) He'd have sex with me as long as we can always be together. And he's a virgin! At the ended, he ended up calling me the wrong name. So I dumped him. Is that wrong? I think he's cheating so. (Btw only me and my family know he's gay)


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Life is like a grindstone, and whether it grinds a man down or polishes him up depends on the stuff he's made of...

Although I agree with almost all of the answers you have been given here, there is one thing I noted that you said... You are ALMOST 18.  That means you are both underage and legally you are in the clear.  However, when you turn 18, you can be charged with a sex crime if you continue with this younger person.  You need to keep that in mind.  It won't matter that you're only 2 grades apart at that point.  Once you turn 18, you are legally an adult and law enforcement will see it that way.  That addresses the legal side of the issue. 

The bigger issue is your manipulation of the situation.  I read where you stated that you are grown up, but as long as you treat people this way, I  disagree.  When you are mature, you don't use people in this way.  Relationships are two-sided and you need to learn to treat other people with respect.  A mature relationship does not use lies and manipulation in order to get what you want.  A mature relationship relies on respect, trust, caring, and understanding.

Bottom line... this guy is very young.  You know it and we know it.  He will mature in time and when he does he will realize just how wrong you are and he will resent you for it. 

Since the whole situation seems to be about sex for you, you need to find someone older who just wants sex and leave it at that.  I am not advising that, because personally I think you need to mature before you continue with any relationship... but if it's sex you want, go for it.  Just do it with someone old enough to understand that that's what it is. 

In the meantime, stop making excuses for your pitiful behavior and accept that what you did is wrong.  Very wrong.  You can't change bad behavior until you own it. 

Posted 2009-10-03T18:18:46Z
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Smile, it's contagious!

It's RAPE!!! He's under age!!!  Doesn't matter what sexual preference either of you have.  That does not change the fact that he is still a child by law.   You were wrong 100% for even thinking you could have any contact with this boy.  You need to get help for your 'fantacies' before you do serious harm to someone.  And, you could end up in jail for a long time.   (I know someone who went to jail for life because they raped a child after being classified as an unregistered pedophile on another case.)  As for the relationship you think you had with this boy, he is a child doing  childish things.  He probably doesn't even know the meaning of love.  For that matter do you?  You lead him on then dumped him when he believed you to be his friend.   THAT is not a true friend.  Shame on you for hurting a child like that!!!   For the boy's sake I'm glad you came to your senses and ended the relationship even if you did use a lame excuse.  

Posted 2009-09-28T00:40:24Z
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I can't put into words how wrong the whole situation is.  He said no!!  HE told you he was too young.  You use his emotions against him and use him like he is a piece of toilet paper.  Go find yourself a man old enough to make such important decisions like when to have sex and who to have it with.  Otherwise, you are nothing but a predator of young boys.

Posted 2009-09-28T00:47:27Z
 
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Turn off the television and teach your children how to think.

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You are a rapist and a child molester who is blaming his victim for "wanting" it.

It is too bad that I do not know your name and that of your victim, because I would go to his parents and encourage them to press charges against you until you get what you deserve.

Your 'boyfriend' is a CHILD. He did NOT want to have sex with you, you tricked and manipulated him into doing it. Furthermore, you have as good as said that you will do so again, and that you don't care how he feels about it as long as you get what you want.

Your behavior has nothing to do with your being gay. Your behavior is COMPLETELY tied to the fact that you are a sick and nasty piece of work, and you have broken the law.

You deserve to be punished for what you have done - and I don't mean your morality or choice of same sex partners. I mean CHILD MOLESTING.

Leave this boy alone! Find someone who is experienced (and your own age) and stop preying on CHILDREN!  

Posted 2009-09-28T02:19:39Z
 
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Are you wrong?  YES.   This has nothing to do with your sexual orientation, it has to do with 1. Attempting to have a sexual relationship with a minor, 2. Manipulating and conniving to get that underage minor to have sex with you, 3. Continuing to push for sex when this person clearly said NO, 4. Emotionally abusing him by making derogatory remarks about his body... the list goes on and on.  Even if he was legal, this behavior is deplorable. 

As has been said previously, find people your own age or older to have relationships with.  If you do not change your attitude towards relationship, however, it may be very possible that there will be a preditor in YOUR future. As a matter of fact, it's a forgone conclusion. 

It's time for a huge change of heart here for you.  It's time to wake up and realize that relationship is not just for getting off and all about you.  You may be eighteen, but, it is never too late to learn this one.  You come off like an automaton, not a human being.  You have been shown the writing on the wall.  Wake up!!!!

Posted 2009-09-28T03:22:21Z
 
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You ask a question and when every single one of the answers says the same thing to you, you will not take responsibility for what you have done.
There is really nothing else to say to you.  Only time will bring realization to you (hopefully).  You will meet others who will victimize you in the exact same fashion.  You will meet others who will use either your emotions, your innocence (with them)or whatever they can find to get what they want.  They will use you, abuse you and throw you away.  And this is what your life will be like, either you doing awful things to another, or you having it done to you. 
There is no justification for what you have done.  Whatever you tell yourself to make it better in your own mind is a lie.

Posted 2009-09-28T12:47:09Z
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 Be Thankful

 Speak softly

 Let your love shine...

You bet you are wrong.  You know you are wrong.  Forcing anyone to have sex with you is wrong.  It's called rape and in your case, yes this makes you a full blown child molester...no two ways about it.  Leave that child alone.  You are a real pervert to make anyone....ANYONE...feel as uncomfortable as you have this poor soul.  Someone should report your behavior to the local authorities.

Posted 2009-09-28T15:19:33Z
 
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Yes, you are WRONG.

And somewhere inside your warped little mind, the last shred of conscience you have left KNOWS that you are wrong.

That's why you asked this question and that's why you keep arguing points with us.

YOU KNOW YOU ARE WRONG AND YOU KNOW BETTER.

You cannot undo the harm you have done, but you sure as hell can stop doing any more. Leave this child alone. Leave THIS one alone and leave any OTHER children you happen to meet alone.

If you don't, sooner or later what you have done WILL catch up with you - and it won't be pretty. It is true what they say, you know.

Payback's a bitch.

Posted 2009-09-28T15:29:30Z
 
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You're all a bunch of faggots, He didn't force him too. Not like he undressed him And raped the ngr, He just made him jealous And the little one said He could do it as long as, The older fgt was happy. Unfortunately he wasn't and broke up with him, All though I agree it was wrong You're all just a bunch of semi-flamers and assholes please go read a book.Smile

Posted 2009-09-28T21:09:36Z
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