Should I be worried about my BF's Ex??

Plenty of fish in the sea! Life is to short to spend your life with anyone that doesn’t make you 100% happy.

considering there was a seven year behind the scenes romance and he doesnt want you meeting her i would think there is still something there at least on his part even if its just wishful thinking!!you are suppose to be the center of his life now and i would except that in no other terms!! there is no place for a third party in a relationship!! these are just my feelings on the matter and in no way should they influence in your final decision making!!! good luck and i hope he comes around for you

considering there was a 7 year behind the scenes romance yes you have every right to be concerned!! it takes two to tangle..him not wanting you to meet her just adds to the confusion!you are suppose to be the center of his world!!! and i would not except anything else

I think that it is time for you to put your foot down.  He has every right to have her as a “friend”, but if that makes you unhappy, you have every right to walk away from the relationship.  Your relationship although 6 months long, is fairly short in comparison to his affair with her.  There is a huge amount of history behind them and he has to appreciate and expect your concern.  He does have to work with her and that is also understandable but he should respect you enough to keep the relationship and atmosphere strictly professional.  A private dinner in a discreet location like a restaurant is not necessarily professional and is definitely avoidable.  He should be willing to arrange his meeting in a more professional atmosphere such as his office or in the midst of other colleagues.  Although he doesn’t seem to want to discuss things with you, I would give it one more shot.  This time don’t try and discuss the details or even your personal concerns.  Tell him that you are not comfortable with the situation and either he changes it or you will find someone that will devote their heart and soul to you and only you.  Let him know that you are not accusing him of any wrong doing; you just don’t feel that he should put you in the position to be worried that temptation will be there.  You also need to make him aware that you recognize that he has 7 years of history with her and that you can comprehend his need to want her as a friend, but he should be willing to have you along for their meetings.  If he wants only a friendship with her then his new girlfriend should be able to attend all events in which they will both be present.  Do not settle for slightly uncomfortable when completely perfect is out their waiting.

Does her husband know about this? If you have met everyone else then you should be able to meet her, if not then their is a problem..If you have an ex would it be appropriate for you to do the same? He needs to think about that, if it was that their were more people at this dinner as in a business dinner that would be different, on another note you could always spy, and if anything happens you would be right,, or wrong it dosen't hurt unless he see's you...............Been their done that.