YEGADS...sounds like you married a real high-maintenance princess!! She needs to be made aware of all the good things she has in her life......Why should she get in bed with you when you, a true 'sugar daddy' give her all she could ever want? if you really love her, you need some expert guidance of some type in order to get thru to this spoiled baby!!!!!!!!!!  I am very sorry for you.....please seek some guidance, and take her with you.......she's taking you for a real merry-go-round ride!!!!!! and getting away with it!!!!!!!!!!!!!