How to get your wife to have more sex?

How to Get Your Wife to Have Sex with You.

There are many married males out there who are wondering what they are doing wrong and trying to figure out why their wife wont' have sex with them. Have your sex life back on track in no time with these easy hints.

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SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOUR WIFE - Spend more time just hanging out with your wife. Everyone knows that women need more foreplay, but what most me do not realize is that women need a different kind of foreplay. Women need emotional foreplay. They need to feel loved and wanted and romanced. Spend time with your wife talking about things that make her feel good such as her passions, her dreams, and her goals in life and how they fit in with yours. Don't put the moves on her when you are just hanging out. The two of you need to spend quality time together that does not involve sex.

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  Step 2
  WINE AND DINE - Take your wife out to her favorite restaurant and spend the evening doing her favorite activities. You will really impress her if you take her to do things that she knows you do not enjoy. If you are putting her first, she will know it.
  
  Giving her attention will help you to romance your wife and increase intimacy between you two.
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  Step 3
  PRIVATE TIME - Plan for private time alone with your spouse. Send the children to grandma's house so that you can spend time alone with your spouse. Turn off the television and put the pets outside. Do not allow anyone or anything interrupt your private time together.
  
  Sometimes when life gets busy, intimacy needs to be planned ahead of time. Create time and set the scene so that everything is perfect.
  
  Take your spouse out for a special evening at least once per week to keep the romance alive in your relationship.
  
  Knowing how to get your wife to want more sex will help your marriage stay strong.
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  Step 4
  SNUGGLE AFTER - Spend time with your wife after you have been intimate. Snuggling up together after and chatting about nothing will strengthen the bond between you. Don't rush away, take the time to appreciate your spouse and she will return the favor.
  
  If you need more information about romancing your wife, please look in the resources section below. Knowing how to get your wife to want more sex will strengthen the bond between you.
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• SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOUR WIFE - Spend more time just hanging out with your wife. Everyone knows that women need more foreplay, but what most me do not realize is that women need a different kind of foreplay. Women need emotional foreplay. They need to feel loved and wanted and romanced. Spend time with your wife talking about things that make her feel good such as her passions, her dreams, and her goals in life and how they fit in with yours. Don't put the moves on her when you are just hanging out. The two of you need to spend quality time together that does not involve sex.
• 
  Step 2
  WINE AND DINE - Take your wife out to her favorite restaurant and spend the evening doing her favorite activities. You will really impress her if you take her to do things that she knows you do not enjoy. If you are putting her first, she will know it.
  
  Giving her attention will help you to romance your wife and increase intimacy between you two.
• 
  Step 3
  PRIVATE TIME - Plan for private time alone with your spouse. Send the children to grandma's house so that you can spend time alone with your spouse. Turn off the television and put the pets outside. Do not allow anyone or anything interrupt your private time together.
  
  Sometimes when life gets busy, intimacy needs to be planned ahead of time. Create time and set the scene so that everything is perfect.
  
  Take your spouse out for a special evening at least once per week to keep the romance alive in your relationship.
  
  Knowing how to get your wife to want more sex will help your marriage stay strong.
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  Step 4
  SNUGGLE AFTER - Spend time with your wife after you have been intimate. Snuggling up together after and chatting about nothing will strengthen the bond between you. Don't rush away, take the time to appreciate your spouse and she will return the favor.
  

Fish, you're making this sound like she should feel obligated to you for all the nice things you do for her "What if the guy makes all the money, helps around the house, paid for her college education, etc." and if that's the way it comes across to her, I can tell you the answer to your question is an emphatic no. I would never phrase it as "you owe me" so ask yourself if your attitude can be affecting your relationship.

I agree with all of MF's comments above but I would place special emphasis in paragraph 1 and the comment "Women need emotional foreplay" because every woman I've known in the biblical sense have this in common. 

There is also a quality vs quantity aspect and I'd sooner have one great night as oposed to two or more average nights, unless you just want relief and if that's your thing, there are other ways to deal with that.

How is she physically? If she's dealing with the change that will affect her feelings toward sex. There are several dozen other good reasons but I want to step back and give the ladies a shot at you.

Note to MF, excelllent post and a big TU to you.

I agree with the above comments but also want to comment.  Why did you marry your wife in the first place?  Was she just someone who looked good hanging out with you and was good in bed or is there more to her than that.  You don't buy a wife for sex.  That would make her a prostitute and if she thinks that is how you see her, you can kiss passion, respect and romance good bye.  No one wants to feel that cheap.  Develop a relationship with her that is more than sex and it will improve the time you do spend in bed.  

I've been married for more than 30 years.  Sometimes the sex is great but other times you have to work through emotional baggage, illness, financial stress, etc.  It's a two way street where both of you have to develop sensitivity to each other's needs.  I can tell you it is worth the effort. :0) 

How long have you been married?  I can tell you, from a woman's point of view, that our bodies change after giving birth and giving birth more than once can really screw with your hormones.  Suggest to her that she see a gynocologist for a thorough checkup.  On the other hand, I would gnaw off my left leg to have sex once a week!!  Depending on how long you have been married, you should consider yourself lucky!  It is easier to go to a job you hate then spend all day alone with children.  I know this because I have done both.  It is very hard to go to college, take care of a house and kids at the same time too, even with the occasional help from the hubby.  Whether or not you see it, her life has stresses too.  If you feel that she is taking advantage of your goodness, then sit down and have a long talk with her about your needs.  Either she can meet them or she can't.  Tell her that you need more sex, discuss her going to see a gynocologist and discuss ways of improving your intimate life TOGETHER.

Hi,
I'll be direct and blunt:  You see it as a mathematical equation: You do a, b and c and she gives sex..... the more you give the more sex you expect.....  Sorry, that doesn't work in that way...... Sex is a reflection of your relations.  Get closer to her, talk to her, make her your best freind, let her feel you love her, share your life with her, let her feel the means the whole world for you, show her (emothionally) that you love her and care for her, make her feel your queen....... only than you'll get what you want.  But never lie and never fake (women sense it quickly). 
Best regards,

Well, I'll probably get a lot of grief over this, but I say it's time to hire a PI. It is unfortunate that a lot if not most women do not understand how a man's body and mind work. What would happen if you said "No" to some of her extra curricular activities? Sounds like when she is having fun is when she is not at home with you. I am divorced, but I don't encourage or believe in it, especially where children are involved.You are not the king of your domain I say grow a pair. That does not mean that you become abusive, just that you take all of this very seriously. How long did the two of you date before getting married? Is this her first marriage? A lot of women come into a marriage with a lot of baggage. What is her mother like? What were her parents and her family dynamics? I wish you well, but she has it made right now, why would she want to change? Don't get into pornography or things of that nature, they will end up hurting you more because it can become an unrealistic obsession. How is the once a week thing? Is it hot and steamy sex or just let's get this over so I can get on with my life sex? Is this an act out of duty or a sincere show of being "in" love with you sex? If it is the latter then talk to her not at her, listen, listen, listen and maybe she will hear what you say and you will hear what it is that she needs.

Women are far more complicated than that! You can't throw money at her and expect her to comply with any of your sexual whims! Most women would rather a man who enquires about how her day was, makes her feel special with kind words and cuddles and wants to spend time with her rather than pays for everything and ignores her until bed time.

Talk to her, tell her she still drives you wild and you want to have more sex with her because she's so hot. Make yourself vulnerable by telling her how you feel (unless you're cross about everything so in which case, lie and say it makes you feel sad not to be close to her!) Any woman who cares about you would respond favourably to that!

FishL8:  I'm not Dr. Phil and I'm certainly not Dr. Ruth, but I do know something.

Some may tell you to get counseling and some that I've talked to may tell you to leave the marraige.  I do not.  I don't need an MSW, a PhD, or anything else to tell you the Truth.

Apparently, you took this woman to be your wedded wife and you made your vows.  Keep them.

Sex is not love and love is not sex.  Oh yes, sex is a part of love and love can be a part of sex, but not necessarily.  What about the love that passeth all understanding?

There's different strokes for different folks.  People have different body chemistries and different brain chemistries.  All the counseling in the world won't help you with that one.  Some don't need or want sex but once a week.  Some even less.  What's that the Serenity Prayer says?  "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change ..."

The bottom line is do you love her?  Do you love her for better or for worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health 'til death do ye part?  If so, then love her and love her with your WHOLE heart.  It's not about the body, at all.  It's about the heart.  IT'S ALL ABOUT THE HEART.

GBY.

~ MW