What is a wife to do?

Um... all guys are definitely not like this and be most definitely has a problem.  I would try the nice way first, and tell him what's bothering you, that you don't want to feel like you're competing, that you're sick of seeing that porn is such a big part of his life, that this is not the person you married.  And if nothing changes, I would tell him that you want to go to counseling with him, because you cannot live like this anymore.  If he refuses, then I would tell him that he has a choice, counseling and getting over the porn, or your marriage.  You deserve better than this.  You should only put up with so much.  I'm a guy, and I think it's rediculous.

If at this point you have already done these options stated above, then I think that it's time that you consider divorce.  Look, you're not going to change him because he doesn't want to change.  He obviously thinks that he is doing nothing wrong and he is even willing to state these hurtful things, such as... I'll just find another woman who doesn't mind.  This is not the way you should be treated and you deserve to be with a better person.  If he can't be that better person for you, than leave him.  We only have one life to live.  Don't waste it with him.

That was definitely a good answer to a common problem. My b/f is like this too and I had a talk with him...if he does not knock off this bad habit I am not getting married to him...he thinks I am..but even though we got the rings doesn't mean crap to me....I don't want him if he has this bad habit even though I care and love him..I will not put up with this..am I right???