Unfortunately, habanero, this is a question that you will never get an answer to, or at least an answer you can use. Why? Well, a couple of reasons....
1. Anyone who has a good, genuine wholesaler won't give up the name to anyone. Why create competition for themselves, right?
2. This type of question, no matter where you ask it, will attract scammers who are selling different types of "wholesaler directories" that are full of nothing but broken links and junk.
I'm not a "scammer," but I have been a professional eBay seller for 6 years and have done my homework when it comes to wholesalers. I will tell you, if you want to find a genuine wholesaler, visit the URL in my signature.
Kim, eBay Seller's Resource