Once a week tiffs

Fighting once a week is very normal. No couple in the world since coupling was invented has a fight free relationship. Every couple is comprised of at least two people, who have different needs and wishes and desires, and inevitably these sometimes clash, resulting in tiffs or quarrels or fights. It happens, it has happened before, and it will happen even after 50 years of the most blissful marriage you've ever seen.

That's life, and it's fine. 

Hi,

Do you two fight or do you both argue?  Fighting is an act of violence, prevalent in wars and I do not condone that in any relationship.  Leave the fighting up to me and other members of the Armed service.  However, if you two are arguing then I feel that you two are simply agreeing to disagree or disagreeing in order to meet at an agreement.  In any case, arguing is fine.

Only once a week? :-)

"Fighting" is nothing but the clash of values.  You have to constantly measure your values (and expectations) against those of other people and of the world.  A good spouse helps you do that.  You just have to perfect the way to do it without threatening the relationship (i.e., you don't start with "If you feel that way we'd be better off separate.")

If there's one thing I've learned by outliving many friends it is this:  If you get your way 100% of the time it will kill you!  If you get a spouse who will condone all your opinions and support all your habits (and vices) it will shorten your life by decades!

One of the best things that comes from being married, is to have a sounding board for your reality, and a nag to keep you from killing yourself by indulging your bad habits.  Treasure conflict, it will keep you young and fit! 

Hi,

     You fight or you argue once a week for 2 years?  Yes, I agree with OronD it's a little bit frequent.  Have you examined closely both of your values, desires, beliefs, ambitions?  What is the source of the disagreement?  I know arguing is normal but not once a week.  If you do that then do you think that you are not really compatible with each other?

   Of course no relationship is perfect.  After 2 years of arguing , you would have resolved at least 40 % of the issues and most probably be arguing twice a month.