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Does she not want me to move on?

I crushed on my best friend for 10 years, I told her how I felt 5 years ago and she fine with it but doesn’t feel the same way. We became closer friends after that, I remember 2 years ago she was jealous of me or the guy I wasn’t sure because my sister was trying to hook me up with some guy at a party and I told my friend about that and she got jealous, she admit her jealousy and that she was jealous of my last two boyfriends in high school. I asked her if she likes me more than a friend in a letter I hand it to her during our math class in college. 3 weeks pasted and she hasn’t reply, so after our last class I came up to her face to face and ask her about her jealousy and her feelings but she refused to talk about it she try to change the subject till I push it because it was driving me insane, she just said that’s she was afraid to lose my friendship if I started dating…now I been trying to move on with my feelings for her but I cant because she is a very clingy flirty person to me and it is sending me mix messages so I asked her to give me my space. But then she tells me she might be bi curious and has unsure feelings for me. I asked her if she sees me more than a friend and she said not at the moment. I asked her why you said you have unsure feelings for me and she said she was afraid to lose my friendship. I even said to her that I feel like you are not letting me move on and she said that she told me to move on but she didn’t say that to me at all. I also asked why you told me you have unsure feelings for me and she said “I don’t know”. now I cant understand were she getting at, she says one thing but meant the other…I am trying to move on but I cant when this is in my head 24/7. I admit that half of this is my fault for not speaking up earlier and that I didn’t want to stop her clinginess but I had to stop my obsession over her and move on because I am not getting anywhere in life but I just feel like she not letting me move on…what are your thoughts?

We are 22 and I am bi and she is recently bi curious.

Btw it took my bff weeks! To reply back to me I had to keep asking till she finally answer me.


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It's obvious she values your frienship greatly. This is likely the root of the problem. She may very well have feelings for you and not know how to handle them. Or she may be scared that if something happens between you, and it doesn't work out, she will lose her best friend.

 

You want her, she does not want you (sexually)  its that simple.  She may like you as a friend, but you want to be lovers.  You are not on the same level.   You want different things.  I would feel very uncomfortable with a friend who had sexual intentions toward me.  I would get away as far as i can and avoid contact.  Once you accept that what you want is not the same as she, you stop being in DENIAL, you can move on.  You dont need her to tell you to move on.  You should have the brains and courage to move on, because you KNOW she doesnt feel the same way.  Why cant you get that?  Do you need her to beat you over the head to understand that?  Her actions speak clearly .  I am sorry, you feeling hurt, but stop being in major denial and move on.

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