Psygib, I'll be the first to admit that I'm no J/Kgrandma but since I do fall into the other group you mentioned ("a substancial amount of people") I did read your entire post and if this is a question (below) relating to leaving your wife and kids I do have an opinion;
"DO YOU THINK A PERSON CAN HAVE AN OBSERVATION OF HAVING TO BE AWAY FROM THE ONES WHO DEPEND ON YOU BUT NOT LOSE THEM AND SUPPORT THEM EVEN IN A REALITY OF A RECCESSION IN THE ECONOMY?"
Your wife will make her own decision regarding the path her life will take as a single parent after you depart, and if she chooses to remarry you will (I know this from experience) be involved with your children's step father, and his participation in raising your children. Now, if you think you can't handle this;
"i have to take care of my girls I refuse to have another man raise my daughters that is against everything i have been taught and with no doubt it is against my belief and there will be for once in my life no compromising there."
then I strongly recommend you take your own advice;
"Yes i will probably have people tell me i need to see a psychologist and have family counseling i understand that."
because you can't have your cake and eat it to. My next comment has to do with your statement;
"My girls our kids right now and i refuse to give them adult problems"
so if this is what you think you may be doing to them, that's all the more reason to continue seeking a professional that can help you. Your next comment is also a contradiction;
"i have not met a psycologist/psychiatrist that i have not been able to munipulate and/or convince that i am ok.(admission not concieted)"
and
"Things are truly coming into a solid explosion because i have not found a release."
because you sound as if you're taking a certain satisfaction fooling the people who you're paying to help you and you're concerned about where your current emotional state is leading you, so get some help before you end up having even more serious problems than you do now.