Since the day my baby was born, my hubby comments ...

Verbal abuse can create just as much damage as physical abuse. Even if it does not take the form of yelling, verbal abuse can occur when a partner mutters spiteful or uncharitable comments to his partner. This form of abuse is intended to decrease a woman's sense of self-worth. Fortunately, women can defend themselves against such verbal attacks asserting control when interacting with their partners

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Work on building your own self-esteem. One of the most common reasons why a woman chooses to marry an abusive husband is due to her own weak self-esteem. While few women or men are powerful enough to retrain a spouse, every individual has the power to change her own behavior. Instead of focusing on her husband's shortcomings, she can focus on her own strengths. Several ways to build one's self-esteem include getting involved as a volunteer to help the needy, liberating oneself from perfectionistic tendencies and refusing to engage in negative thinking patterns.

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  Discuss your emotions objectively. In the midst of an argument, our emotions tend to cloud our sense of reason. Usually this places both a woman and her husband at a disadvantage. While her husband resorts to tactics of verbal abuse, a woman's only defense is her ability to deflect these attacks with the aid of reason. Otherwise, she will accept his faulty logic as gospel. Thus, when attempting to resolve issues during an argument, a woman must strive to maintain control of her emotions. While she may discuss how she feels, she must not allow her emotions to reduce her capability to emerge from an argument with her dignity intact.
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  Learn to practice conflict-resolution skills. Many wives respond to their husbands' verbal abuse by pointing out his faults. Instead of resolving conflicts, they simply prolong them or in certain cases incite them. Instead of squabbling with your spouse, learn to be a peacemaker. This does not mean to simply aim to please but rather to learn how to be the center of calm in the midst of a catastrophic hurricane.
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  Fairly divide responsibilities in your relationship. Sometimes, when spouses fail to motivate one another, they become indecisive as a result. Such indecisiveness tempts both a man and a woman to forgo important responsibilities in a relationship. Completing simple chores such as washing the laundry may prove to be difficult. To move forward in the relationship, a wife must learn both to accept certain responsibilities as well as to deny others. For example, if a husband is responsible for bringing home the paycheck, she should not permit herself to feel guilty if he loses a large chunk of his paycheck by drinking or gambling.
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  Get others involved. Victims of verbal abuse may be hesitant to seek help, considering verbal abuse less serious than physical abuse. However, abuse of any sort creates inequity within a relationship. Marriage counseling can work to repair some of the deeper problems at the root of verbal abuse. Alternatively, family or friends can help to address the issue of verbal abuse. Others may be waiting in the wings, ready to speak up if invited to do so. However, if you chose to involve others, be sure that you will not simply unite to gossip about your husband's behavior. Instead, simply invite them to take an uncompromising stand against your husband's behavior.Good luck

He sounds to me like he is jealous of your relationship with the baby.  If that is the case, he is a very immature man.  You've got a job on your hands to try to take care of your child and this child-man, who gives you no affection.  If at all possible try to get your husband to see a therapist to find out why he dislikes you so much after you gave birth.

It could be your hubby is bored and no longer finds you physically attractive enough to do the things you did that got you pregnant in the first place. Many women after giving birth maintain the same weight they had, or gain more, when they were eight months into their pregnancy. Perhaps he just isn’t feeling uncomfortable having sex with you since you gave birth. Going into places where the fruit of his looms popped out can be traumatic to a fella.  Or maybe he’s feeling neglected because you’re spending more time with the baby, and disrespecting you is his sick way of regaining control.

Either way emotional abuse is crippling; It robs a person of their self-esteem, the ability to think rationally, confidence in themselves, and their independence. If you’re in a relationship, and have some of these feelings, you need to talk face to face with a mental health professional about it! Verbal abuse can easily become physical so for your and the baby’s sake, don’t just take a “wait and see” attitude about this!