ChuckY
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Do not dwell on the past,nor worry about the future,for tomorrow may not be there. Live today to the fullest,and enjoy life!

What to do

Here's a good one---I've NEVER KNOWN my father,-he left when I was about 3 months old,I don't know why.My mother never really talked about him much,and now she has passed-away,so I can't ask any questions.My sis tells me that he was one of the nicest men my mother was with.That's about it there.My whole life Ive searched for him--every different town I've been in,I search all the phone books,never any luck. Well,I finally get this computer with online capabilities,(late bloomer,I guess!)and I find his full name and number.My question is,should I call? is it him?What do I say? Maybe he does'nt want to know me? What do you think I should do? Thanks.


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OronD
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Love is the battery of life....

Hi ChuckY,


Wow !!!  W-h-a-t a story.... You better write a book....  it's going 2B a best-seller.....  You must be a brave man to tell your private story.  As per your question: It all depends how much it is important to you.  If it's really important 2U, go for it.  Remember it's a matter of chances: It might come out with an happy end (you meet your father, a click is formed, and you both find the path to each other's heart) or it can end with a heart break and a lot of dissapointment.  Always remember that you are not the one to blame..... even if it comes to a bad end !!!!. 
My advice (based on my intuition that never disspointed me) is: Go for it, it will be OK with a happy end !.
I honestly hope that you'll manage to establish good warm relations with your father.  I pray for it.  You deserve it.
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ChuckY
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Do not dwell on the past,nor worry about the future,for tomorrow may not be there. Live today to the fullest,and enjoy life!

Thanks,Oron. I respect your advise,-and your intuition! Maybe I will give it a try. As for writing a book,on the other hand,my whole life has been filled with heartbreak and dissapointment. I think it would be too sad of a story read. Oh well, Have a good one,and thanks again.
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You have come this far so don't give in to your fears. It is natural to fear the unknown, but as Roosevelt once said, "The only thing to fear is fear itself." If you stop now you will never have rest and if you will be disappointed know that it was not your fault. But if your sister told you the truth then it is certainly worth the effort. We are all with you. Good Luck.
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angelkiss
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Fool me once,

shame on you!!

Fool me twice,shame on me!

well,you have two choices!

one,you never call if and wonder for the rest of your life...

two,you call him and find out!at least this way,you will find out whether he wants you or not.

well,here's what i would do,i'd call him and tell him that i found his number on the internet and that i was his son....there will be a long pause from your father here....then i would tell him that i want to see him!and that's that!the ball would be in his court then!

if he doesn't want to see you,then it's his loss,cause YOU babe tried!

but it's better to know then to wonder about it for the rest of your life!

Hope i helped you,babe!
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MusicIsMyHotHotSex
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MY inferiority complex isn't as good as YOURS

I think you should call Chucky,but it's probably the most personal decision you'll ever make.I agree with Angelkiss,you can either call and LET him get to know the funny,caring,smart guy you are,or don't call and live not knowing what might have been.You may have contacted him by now if you decided to (just call me music-come-lately :-p) and if you did let me know what happened!
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Dear Friend,CoolTongue out

Since you are in possession of the Number of your Father, Why can't you call him and say that Myself (that is You) are your Beloved Daughter, Dad.  Of course, he will call you back.  If not let me know.  I will do the needful. Okey.?  In the meantime have a look at the following links and do the needful, I hope.

Regards.Wink

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Upto When

If There is a Heaven...

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