How to make him understand?

Hi Carli, we all face these problems. Its not always easy to get a guy to commit himself entirely to you. First of all, are you in a long distance relationship? If you are, then you will need to just trust him and put alot of pressure on him to make an effort as u are doing. If you are not in a long distance relationship, then you can takehim out and so you both can talk about 'serious issues'. Ask him what your relationship means to him and if he looks at it beyond a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship... That is,if he looks at it longterm - marraige... what do u think?

Something is wrong when you have to tell a boyfriend to call more!I'd start to distance myself and not answer when he finally does care enough to call me!

Men like to chase,when they have somebody for sure,they start to lose the"hunting"feeling!Unless,of course,he really loves you,but if he did,he'd be on that phone any chance he could!

Start making him wonder about you!Make HIM chase and call YOU and tell YOU to make an effort,if he doesn't then it means that he has somebody else and he's keeping you for backup!

I don't think you can make anyone do anything, especially since what you want is for someone to show you affection on their own accord, I mean - if you tell him call me, and then he calls in 5 minutes, it's not really it, right?!

I think there are a few important things that might make you feel better in this situation, the first is understanding that what you want is not so much the calls and so on, but to know for certain that he loves you and think about you throughout the day. Different people have different ways to show their love,maybe he's a very affectionate person but you are missing his keys - maybe a true prof for his love was introducing you to his friends or missing a game to hang out with you.

Another thing is to remember that you like this person, this is why you chose him as a person, liking a person means liking the whole deal - so he doesn't call, OK, what is it that you do like about him? focus on the good sides, not the bad sides.

Also, you don't want him to try and change you, right? a part of being loved is being accepted, if you feel a need to talk to him in the middle of the day, you should be the one making the call.

What else can you do - instead of telling him what you are unhappy about, make him feel good when he is calling and don't take it for granted. Everytime he's calling tell him that you are really glad he did and that it meant a lot to you.  I think that hearing that would make anyone call more.

If you are certain he was listening and clearly understood you... he is acting selfish and that your requests are not high on the list, Actions speak louder than words.

What to do.. get more involvrd in your own life so it wont matter if he doesnt call you that much. Then after your satisfied, if he hasnt made any efforts.. reconsider your position. But first work on life without him while he is still technically in the picture.

Well, if he's not really a "phone person" as many men aren't then you might just have to respect that. However, if you know that to be untrue then stop calling him. When he DOES finally call you, converse with him normally and don't let him know that your lack of phone calls made to him was a ploy to get him to reciprocate contact. Just let him know how you love hearing his voice on the other end of the line and if he's really into you he'll likely take that encouragement and run with it.