better question is...can you learn to love yourself before you let others love you rather it be emotionally, physically, or mentally. you have to respect and love yourself before others can. I think once you jump past this, you can gain some respect for yourself and demand that in turn. Cheating isnt always about sex anyway, its about feeling that emotinal connection. YOU are the one at fault, no matter how you want to look at it. If you can find out what makes you tick, what you like, how you liked to be touched, heald, fucked, whatever...you need to learn more about YOU before you get involved with someone...if you dont know yourself, why think someone else will know you better?