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What should u do when you have no sex drive, you don't want or need the affection of an other yet that other just keeps trying and trying? I am 42, could it be Menopause? I feel so badly because he is really wants to love me but I feel nothing.  I have no desire at all for affection at all.  Years ago, I was such a sex freak.   Pleasing him orally was my favorite pass time and now it makes me want to puke.  Out of our 23 years,    we used drugs 19.    I am 4 years clean he is 1 year clean.   I just don't know where we are at or what we have left. Please help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,
I am not sure weather it has anything to do with the drugs or not, at any case you need to get some advice from a sexologist / marriage counselor.  Don't leave it like that, your partner can be very frustrated and it might strongly effect your relations (I believe that's the situation already).
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Hi,

     You need to see your gynecologist  so she can check your hormonal levels.  You may need some hormonal therapy.  And also  you need to consult a doctor whose specialty is internal medicine.  You need to be checked if you have any medical problems that are causing your lack of sexual desire.

Take care.

 


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Fool me once,

shame on you!!

Fool me twice,shame on me!

yes,that sounds like menopause,,the sex drive leaves and you don't want sex and your partner just wants sex all the time and feels neglected!

it can take awhile for your sex drive to return.maybe you could get some info from all the books that they have out there on menopause


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it could be the hormone or the drugs or the psycological effects of of being a clean addict, or even the effects of him getting clean, only a professional is really qualified to figure out which one or combination is causing the problem. Talk to your doctor, therapist, gyn, possibly your sponsor if you attend NA or AA, but make sure you talk to your spouse and explain the whole situation to him and keep him informed. let him know that it is important to you, and you will do what you can to find a solution.


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