What should u do when you have no sex drive, you don't want or need the affection of an other yet that other just keeps trying and trying? I am 42, could it be Menopause? I feel so badly because he is really wants to love me but I feel nothing. I have no desire at all for affection at all. Years ago, I was such a sex freak. Pleasing him orally was my favorite pass time and now it makes me want to puke. Out of our 23 years, we used drugs 19. I am 4 years clean he is 1 year clean. I just don't know where we are at or what we have left. Please help !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!