How do I know when it's true love?

Hi,

Yo Lookin;  Been married for 45 years..Raised 4 kids....We are still on our honeymoon....Why?? Before we ever married we both hated arguments..We have debates and mild arguments...Many times it is so trivial, we let the other have their way...It does not hurt to let the spouse,friend,etc have their way..We decuss, and end it with a "Ah your goofy", no way...Before we married, we looked for each others faults....The secret was that we both are not selfish...We always want to please the other in every aspect of our lives..Money is a bad item to argue over, and can lead to serious problems in the future....Again ,we don't argue over money.....Somehow,  it worked itself out..Know the person you are going with, before you fall in love...My wife and I are very lucky...Most important, the person must absolutley be your best friend..You must feel that this friend is the one person you want to share and enjoy all experiences with, above all others....The friend must feel exactly the same way.....When you both feel this, your probably in love..No selfishness....No money arguments...When one is feeling down, then go to bed, and wake up happier..Chalk this love up as an experience of life and carry on.......Best of Luck.....Best Regards........MarqUSMC

I don't believe in true love, I think that putting the responsibility on destiny  or the universe is not a good idea. I think that different people are good for us in different time in our lives, and that once we are ready, choosing a good and matching person to live with and love is very important part of our happiness.

I'm incredibly romantic and did massive amount of changes in my life for the sake of love, I truly believe that it's the most important part in my life, However just because i had relationships in the past that ended doesn't meed "i got it wrong" or that "I messed it up". It just that what worked at one point stopped working in another. 

I don't think true love is something we find, I think it's something we create, by putting time and effort and attention into a person we chose to be with.  without working at it, the initial attraction and beginning falling in love feeling will go away entirely, leaving us with that "but what went wrong" feeling. It's funny how we accept maintenances and change in almost every other field in our lives (like our body or our car or the house we live in) but expect love to stay the same and perfect all the time. 

I agree with Lilly 100%.I don't believe in soul-mates,and I've been hurt so many times,but I still believe in love.When I can't get the guy outta my head no matter what I do,and thinking of kissing him sends shivers up and down my body,I know I'm infatuated.When I look around at the world,and it seems a little friendlier and brighter just because he exists in it,I know I'm in love.

When that person loves you more than he loves himself!

I have been married for 5 years and with hubby for 8 years.  Before I met him, I was in a serious relationship for 3 years.  Looking back now, I realized that I knew he was not "the one."  At the time, I just did not want to admit that I was wrong and wasted 3 years with a looser.  Now I understand that relationship taught me what not to do in this relationship/marriage.  The bad relationship has definitely helped me learn

1.  If you are mad at your spouse, wait until you can talk about the issue without yelling or screaming, but in a calm manor.  

2.  Pick your battles.  I am a clean organize person.  My husband was not.  I realized that I could sit in a spotless picture perfect house or I can learn to calm my anal cleaning habits down---and it helps that he getting better too.  So, after a few years, we met in the middle.

3.  No name calling, blaming, or swearing when we are discussing/talk about a problem.

4.  Do not bring up past fights.

5.  No attacking the others family. 

6.  Try to see the others' point of view or side.   

7.  Most important----treat your spouse the way you want to be treated!!   

And as far as knowing when it is true love----sorry, but I will say the same thing that I heard for years and years, and HATING hearing but now I know it is true----You will just know.  And like I always tell my brother----look for the red flags.  When it is the wrong person, there is always red flags.  

When all you an think about all day and night is  the person you think you are in love with , then you know it's true love......KWHOZ

That is a hard question to answer because I am sure that is different for each person.  So, here is how I knew----Like I said earlier, I was in a serious relationship for 3 years before I met my hubby.  The Ex broke it off with me and within months I met hubby.  Hubby and I could not have been together for 3 weeks, when Ex decides he wants me back.  Hubby was so patience, understanding and did not push for me to make a decision.  While Ex pushed and told me that if we got back together that he did not want me to even be friends with now Hubby.  And at the moment, I realized that I could not promise that.  And of course, Ex could not understand "how I could throw 3 years away on someone I just meet."  I told Ex that there was just something about now Hubby---a strong connection---I could not explain it.  It was a gamble, but I knew that Ex and I did not have a great relationship to begin with so I REALLY was NOT throwing much away!!!  Looking back now, I got REALLY LUCKY and found a GOOD MAN.  One of you said something with "Christian singles", so pray for God to tell you who you are suppose to be with and for patience.  Don't jump into the water with both feet until you tested it first.  One thing that help Hubby and I, we did not have "relations" with each other for 6 months after we met.  His friends make fun of him, but he says it was definitely worth the wait.  I know it is not easy being single and alone.  For years, I did not date anyone seriously---a date to the movies here and there, but nothing serious.  I was made fun of because I was almost 24 before I had "relations" with the Ex and we were together for 2+ years before I did that with him.  So, I know it is hard, but be strong and believe that God has someone picked out for you----you just have to wait for your time----he is preparing you for it so it will be "true love."  I hope this helped you.