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"The Best Is Yet To Come"

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As bad as I feel about answering your question...since I really feel like you aren't open to seeing things as they really are....to answer your question ("what can I do ..I want him") - the simple truth is that people (especially men) ALWAYS want what they THINK they can't have.  Be friendly but busy much of the time when he wants to go out.  If you really want to play games to get this guy (and I wish you didn't), don't be available all the time whether it's on the phone or in person and especially for sex.....and remember the rule:  always wanting what they think they can't have.  I hope that by limiting you availability for him, it will give you time to think this thru and realize that this doesn't sound like the right person for you - and at the very least...not the right person at this time.  PLEASE be using protection too!  The WORST thing is to make a guy feel obligated to you because you get pregnant.  Want more than this for YOURSELF!!!!

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CrazyJenner

There is something that I forgot to add, he is a jealous person I know he is from experience. He loves attention, and affection, and he gives alot back too, he always says how beautiful i am, and how smart i am, all the time. I once asked him what i was out of ten and he said, eleven. He set me up with his best friend, cause he needed a girl friend. Now i like his best friend his is a really sweet guy. Im not sure if he wan't to set me up with him because he couldn't provide the "relationship type of affection at that time" or he wants to get rid of me, or he does that to keep me close. We talk for hours everyday, and usually the conversation ends up well. Yesterday when i read what you said about him "using me" I kinda of got upset and talked to him about it. I didn't ask are you using me....but i got my message across, and he got really sad and upset, and almost insulted that i would ask him that. As well i asked him about his ex, ( in a very sly manner) and he didn't even want me to say her name, and he said, im not in a relationship with her. Which is odd cause usually he says some really nice things about her! Im not sure what to do, I think the whole thing with me dating his ex might work, because i remember the song. " I wish that I had Jesse's girl" but never in a million years would i like his ex more than him. He's a reaaaaaally sweet guy, but idk.

 
Minyon

At this point I have to ask your ages. This is all too complicated to be a mature relationship. What's the rush? Are you in school or have a job? Other activities in your life? Usually a girl who is this "into" the drama of guys has low self-esteem. If this is the case, I can't stress enough that you need to stand back and rely on someone else's judgement and work on YOURSELF right now. You will never attract the best person for you until you get yourself together and get your life on a good course. I hate to say this, but you don't seem to listen to anything anyone says unless it's what you want to hear. I sincerely do wish you luck but you are going to have to do some real growing up before things work out for you in the best manner. Take care.

 
Minyon

One more thing....don't be surprised if the "best friend" doesn't turn out to be out for sex too.  PLEASE don't give in to this.  There is a distinct posibility that your guy is "sharing" you.  You are worth more than this.  Keep your eyes open!

 
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