What do you think of my mom and her remarks NO RUDE ANSWERS

Your mother needs to have a checkup to make sure that there are no underlying health issues which are causing her behavior.

Then you need to move out.

Until you do, I suggest you and your mother begin Family Counseling with a qualified mental health therapist.

The two of you need help learning how to communicate with each other. What you are doing and saying to each other is not acceptable and can be classified as abuse - on both your parts.

Please get help.

I wish we knew how old you are.  Is there any place you can go, like to your sister's or to a friend's house for a while?  It doesn't sound as if you are safe there.  Has your mother always acted that way, or is this something new since Mrs. Warner was taken away?  Does your mother take any medications?  Do you think that your mother might be seeking the attention that Ms. Warner got from her illness?  You should tell your sister.  You should tell someone with some authority.  You should look for another place to live.  I doubt if your mother is going to agree to see a doctor for this, so the only person you can really help in this situation is yourself.  Look out for your needs.  Find someone to talk to about this even if it means you have to go to social services.  Please let us know what is going on with you, or we will worry.

Skitch, she's 50-some (around my age).

She and her mother desperately need professional intervention.

Voterperson has severe self esteem issues, or so it seems from her incessant posts about her clothes and such. And her mother may very well have some old-age related issues, such as dementia.

Both of them seem to have quite a few issues which need addressing, but those of us who have answered any number of voterperson's clothing-related questions have given up worrying.

You can't help someone who doesn't care to listen to good advice.

Skitch, I agree with JKGrandma. Her mom is 83.  You can see all her posts by clicking on her name and total posts.  Everyone here has suggested that she get some help, but she ignores our answers.  This is the best answer we can give her.  There is no way we can help her change her life since she won't move out on her own and won't get professional help.  I feel sorry for her since she is ruining her life by her actions.

It sounds like you and your mom need some counseling together.  Have you ever tried that?  Also, you sound very young, are you?  If so, counseling would help you two get along until you are able to get out on your own.  Good Luck.

Are you a young lady? Sounds like you might be. Your question was just posted one day ago. That is long enough for you to take some action to improve  your situation. You have been given a lot of advice. Basically I think people are looking out for you and seeing you as a lady controlled by her mother; do you disagree?

I sounds to me like she is jerking you around quite a bit. Everthing you want to do she gets in your way. When finally yoy took enought control to say you were going to leave at four to go get a cup of coffey, he answer was to give in to you--she gives you a cup, but she charges you a dollar. She still feels in control. She kept you home and made you pay. You don't have a chance aroung her; she knows how to jerk your chain and you just light up like a bulb. Then she glows. The question is how long do you want to go on living this way? You sound mad, just not mad enough to get out. What will it take? Just look at all the answers to your question; they are  all saying to you that you have taken enough and it is not time for you to make a change. Are you strong enough to do it? Have you talked to your sister? Have you talked to a counselor? A social worker? Even a Friend? YOU NEED HELP!!!  Your mother is another subject.Many has commented about her. Tell her to get some help too, but don't wait on her. That might be the next trick--don't leave me-we can go for help together. You need to go help your self first. Please don't waist another day. Your life can be different; it can be good. You can enjoy each day and have friends and much joy. Take a chance on happiness.

I am not really sure what you are asking. Is this sort of interaction between you two the norm or the exception? Maybe you should try sitting down with your mother and telling her how you feel. In addition, you should ask yourself how this makes you feel. Obviously you are angry and hurt, but is there something deeper? For example does she stimulate feelings in you that you are a failure as a daughter? If you cannot sit down with mom, because she is resistant or becomes hurtful towards you when you do try to talk to her, you talking to an objective third party may help you cope with this. Despite what is going on with your mother, it is your reaction and pain that you have to deal with. Especially if she cannot listen to you or continues to berate you. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do the change her or make her behave in a way a loving mother should.