I am addicted to relationships, I am scared of the thought of being dead, I lost 2 boyfriend one when I was 16 and the other at 17 both in a car crash, I am terrified of being alone, I cannot sleep by myself, and I have actually found a wonderful boyfriend and I feel like I'm pushing him away because I can't see the good for looking at the bad, how can i just be normal again?
You have gone through two traumatic incidents and obviously did not seek professional help. If you were physically injured in an accident you would go to a hospital. You must now do the same for these difficulties. You must seek professional help and do NOT label yourself. You can resolve this but you cannot do it alone because you lack the skills and perspective. Don't neglact this problem because it will only get worse.
I agree with Rock that you need to talk to a professional psychologist about your fears and phobias. You aren't necessarily addicted to relationships, you just aren't dealing well with your losses and they are turning into deep fears in your life and affecting your peace of mind, security, and spirituality. You are consumed with worry instead of enjoying life. You need to learn some relaxation techniques, practice some positive thinking, and possibly try to become more active by finding a hobby or a passion that you can get absorbed with and forget the past and live for today. Unfortunately, tragedy is part of life and it is sad you had to experience it so young. With proper help I know you will get past this fear that is controlling your life. Set up an appointment today. Do you have a good firend you can talk to as well who can be your "safe" person when you are overwhelmed with these fears? You are probably dweilling on the negatives. Allow yourself only a certain amount of time during the day to do this and force yourself to think of all the good things in your life you are grateful for. You are going to be fine! Prayer and talking to God can also be a helpful thing. He is with you always and wants you to have a happy life.
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I agree with everything that's been said.
I don't think you are mentally ill. I do think that you suffered from 2 really serious traumatic events and should not expect your life to just go on without a very deep proccess of grieving and dealing with the lose.
As said, I suggest counceling or therapy at least for a way to start dealing with this. Your reaction and emotions about this are quite normal, infact, going through 2 trumatic deaths and just going on with your life, would be far more disturbing and worring.
I suggest that you talk to your new boyfriend about this, and tell him that you have those emotional issues as a result of the death of your boyfriends and ask him to be paicant with how you react to his absence and then seek a good therapist that can help you gain confidence and trust in people.
Sounds like a psychology student to me,lol. This best thing you can do for yourself, is go to your Dr they can order lab's to see if you have a chemical in-blance,a phopia etc., they can refer you to a therapist,whom you can talk & share the problems you're having, if needed you could be put on med's, you must be seen in order to know, dont waste your life living in fear, you may not forget but you can learn how to overcome them. Good Luck
Thank you all so much!! It has really helped I can't afford a therapist but I talk to my boyfriend and finally let my mom know what's going on and they have been able to help me through alot especially at night. I can now sleep by myself yay!! I feel alot more positive and motivated now a days and I talk to God almost constantly and I think He is helping me also. Thanks so much!!
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shape up! you obviously like being a pessimist. you are again fixating on the negative because you have found it to be a way to get interaction. you are doing it right now. I have the tiniest violin in the world playing virtually in your sphincter. go do something nice for your boyfriend and stop being so selfish.
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If you are unable to pay for therapy you can look up local agencies that offer low -income health care. Start with your local dept of jobs & family services (used to be wellfare), but they can give you names of organizations to try. They usually heave a "first call for help" line for that kind of info. I would also suggest a grattitude journal in which you write down at least one thing every day that you are truly thankfull for in your life. Sometimes its hard at first, but it reprograms your mind to see the good in life rather than the bad.
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