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I think I love two amazing guys and i dont know what to do

Hello. I have a relationship problem. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years and he loves me more than anything, he cries whenever i act weird because he thinks I'm going to dump him. He's been an amazing guy. However, there is another guy who loves me a lot. He's been always helpful and during those 2 years I've kissed him many times behind my boyfriends back, but it didnt lead to anything more, and he really wants to be with me. the problem is, i dont love my boyfriend as much as he loves me, my brain is telling me to stay with him because he'll make me happy and he's so amazing and loving etc, but i just can't stop thinking about the other guy, I get this weird feeling whenever he touches me, i can't stop thinking about him, and i miss him more than i miss my boyfriend. I'm really confused and i dont know if i only feel like that about him because i feel sorry for him as he's tried to hard to get me and i only upset him and made him depressed, or im actually in love with him. i really dont know what to do, and im so depressed and confused and all ive wanted is to make everyone happy. which is the reason i kissed him in the first place, i thought he deserved at least something, but its only made everything worse. he just cant get over me, and theres something in his eyes whenever he looks at me, hes a really great guy and its so weird, but i dont know how to feel about him, or what to do, and when he tried to pretend he was over me he started talking about this other girl and i got sooo upset i cried. i was jelouse, i felt like i should be with him. i made a list of good things and bad things about both of them, and my boyfirned has more better things, but i still cant stop thinking about the other guy and kinda wishing i was with him. i want him to be happy.. im really confused and i dont know what to do. i need help.


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I think after 2 years the shine has worn off the relationship with your boyfriend. You've gotten a little bored and the new guy brings back that lust and excitement you once had with the bf. But it sounds to me that the BF, while he seems a little needy, is maybe the better guy. Just my opinion.

Posted 2009-10-05T15:09:25Z
 

Expect nothing but my honest opinion.

I'm not sure how old you are but I truly believe that when you're young you just need to do what makes you happy and comfortable inside.  Follow your heart.  Your current boyfriend seems like a great guy but it also doesn't seem like there is much passion left in the relationship.  The other guy is what makes you spin.  What makes you get those butterflies.  Why don't you just tell your current boyfriend you need to take a break.  Hang out with the other guy a couple times and see how it goes.  If you keep falling for him more and more when you guys hang out, then just keep following your heart.  But you might also discover that after hanging out with him a couple times, he isn't all that you thought he would be.  Once that puppy love passion fades he might not be anything special. 

Just remember that if you take that break from your current boyfriend, you have to be ok with him seeing people or talking to girls as well.  Don't be a hypocrite.  You also must accept that if you decide to go back with your current boyfriend, there is a chance he might take you back.  Knowing that possibility, I still wouldn't let it stop you from taking a break...but you just have to be realistic and know that.  By taking a break, he might be hurt a little, he might find someone else in the time, he might just lose interest in you.  Either way, there is still always that possibilty that he doesn't accept you back.  If that's the case, be mature about it and understand that's completely fair on his part.

End of the day, I still think you take a break, clear your mind, experience some free time where you can do whatever you want with the other guy you are crushing for...and then when that's all said and done, sit back and see what will make you most happy.

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Wish ya the best

Posted 2009-10-05T15:12:22Z
 

Yes, this weird feeling simply touch yourself. It's always been that way and always will chances are remain be that way, too

Posted 2009-10-09T06:12:36Z
 

I noticed that you keep returning to the themes, "I want him to be happy," "I thought he deserved at least something," "All I've wanted is to make everyone happy." These are noble sentiments; however, you cannot make another person happy. You can only make yourself happy. Happiness is a personal choice. During my considerable years on this planet, I've noticed that the butterflies and fireworks of a relationship tend not to be permanent. Once the honeymoon is over all relationships tend to settle down into a comfortable companionship with chemistry or just peter out. Before you scotch your present relationship, explore several possibilities: (1) you want new guy because he is new and forbidden, thus exciting, (2) once you've been with new guy a while he'll become just as routine as your boyfriend, (3) perhaps the reason new guy wants you so badly is because he can't have you--once you are his, will he still feel the same?

You've got a lot to consider. Do you think your boyfriend's crying and clinginess has made him less attractive to you?

Posted 2009-10-27T23:45:14Z
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