Do you think this is cheating?

Hi, This man is not sensitive to your feelings. He may not be cheating but I would think many times if I would continue the relationship with him. You can't change the way he is. So just keep away from him. If it was me, I would leave that kind of man, who knows, his innocent flirtations may end up in cheating on you. This is what I would do if I had a man like yours. Take care.

Hi Justme ,  If you and this man are in a committed relationship his behavior is totally unaccepted and should not be tolerated by you . Communication , trust ,fidelity and respect are the foundations to all relationships . He is willfully bringing outside interference in to your relationship with his comments to other women ,such as your example of  " Wow , you're beautiful and look at the boobies !!!,  Yum "  He is disrespecting you , he does not value or cherish you . Any behavior that ones partner has behind your back  that he wouldn't have in front of you is wrong and deceitful .  Discredits the union .

He is engaging in Emotional infidelity ... UOC defines as such " The end result is that the unfaithful partner is paying more emotional attention to someone other than their partner , and they are removing themselves from the committment they made to their partner " . " This can occur through phone conversation , text messaging , face to face and or on a computer " . This man is engaging other women in amorous adventure , he is discounting your feelings .  It doesn't matter who feels you are right or wrong or insecure ,you feel what you feel and his discounting your feelings after you have discussed this with him as caused your relationship to be diminished .  He should not be the source of your pain and I quote you  " I am saddened by it " . End of quote .

 You don't feel safe in this mans arms , dangerous place for him to find himself if in fact he cares for you .  I question his feelings , committment and respect for you . I also question his ability to handle future issues in your relationship , will he also discount your opinions and feelings then as well ?   Personally I'd kick his butt to the curb and never look back .  My Father gave me some good advice long time ago , Women teach and show Men how to treat them through our actions and behaviors . I live by this piece of advice and it as yet to fail me .  You deserve to be loved , valued and cherished . This man is not getting the job done there are plenty that can get the job done . Choose wisely choose a Man that will value you as his woman and will take your feelings in to consideration  .  That is what love and respect is between a man and a woman .

Take care of yourself .

 DB Lady , Thumb Up !

Unless you and he have agreed that you are in an exclusive relationship, it is not cheating.

However, it IS tacky, crude and just plain bad form.

If that's the kind of man you want, stick with him. If you want someone with some class, keep looking.

Thank you for the invite Equus and great answers from all you ladies; thumbs up!

My input is relatively simple...Committed relationship or not, I wouldn't put up with that behavior for 5 seconds from any man.  The first time it happened I would have said, take me home please and have a nice life.  If you continue to invest your emotions into this relationship, you will have to accept this behavior.  Is that seriously what you want?  Frankly, the man is an idiot!  I mean, think about it....what woman, even is she is single and and interested, would feel appreciated by a man saying, NICE BOOBIES!  lol.....  He sounds like a boy...not a man.  My advice to you is to work on your own self esteem.  I believe that if you felt better about yourself you wouldn't even need to ask this question.  Believe in your own worth girl.... and make the men you date rise to the occasion.  If they behave like this one, consider them a stepping stone..... one step closer to the right kind of man who will not only behave as if he has some self respect, but who will respect you, whether in your presence or outside of it.

P.S.   I once saw a bumper sticker and I quote:   Men are idiots and I married their king....  

Don't become the person needing to find this!

Jada_Lynne ,   AMEN Sister !   Thumb Up !