When can you tell breaking up was the right thing to do?

You do know that you have at least 100 years to ponder the question of love?  who do you wish to do it with.  It's your call and you must answer the almighty question;  who makes you laugh and live?  It may be that none of them are right for you.  Live first for yourself.  Decide only when it's right for you.

Break time! You sound so confused. Orbitalball gave sound advice. Especially, "maybe it is best to be alone". Rebound relationships seldom work for all the reasons you stated. It's impossible to start a new relationship while you are still actively thinking about your last one. Give yourself some time to explore you own feelings. You may feel bad about telling Tom you jumped in too fast, but you really will be doing the right thing.The kindest thing you could do for him right now is end your relationship with him.  Your not ready. I think he is rushing you and that is why your so confused. Tell him your flattered by him telling you he has fallen in love with you, but you have just ended a long relationship and your not even sure who you are yet, so he could'nt be falling in love with "you". If he can't understand that it's not your problem. Your problem is getting some control back in your own life. I'd say date him if your having fun but he's looking for alot more then that. As far as your ex, don't rush into anything. It is very hard to move on. Only time will help you sort out all these questions in your mind. Past relationships always look more comfortable when we're out in new territory and feeling confused. Maybe your ex knew you needed his friendship as you explored your options and thats one of the reasons he cut you off. Take this new freedom you chose and give yourself a little time to think things through. I don't think this is the time to be spontanious. Good luck with whatever you decide.

I'm sorry to hear, Well you need to move on instead of keeping the same old guy in your head.  It maybe hard, but trust me you will move on. :)  My crush moved once I was really, really sad.  And I didn't like boys from that point on (well now I do) But the problem is, is that it's hard getting over it.  Why don't you go out with your friends, to keep Mark off your mind, or why don't you tell your new boyfriend that your going out tonight (but lie and just stay home and have some alone time) sometimes you have to do a white lie to get past things.  Tom seems really nice but listen to your heart, and don't lie to yourself just think about it, don't worry when you think about something no one can see that thought.  So your thoughts are private. :) Who are you happier with, Who makes you feel great?, all these different questions.  Maybe if you get the answer your not hoping for don't fight it, your brain is a person of it's own.  And your brain never lies about something that's true :) good luck you will know witch path to take. :)  Im in my own issue and I'm really stuck LOL.  But still if you need me you can contact me at my profile, 

All i have to say is you live once, and if you really care about that other person you should let them know before its too late. I am in the same situation right now but i am scared to talk to my ex about us, we talk normally at work and in person, but i never bring up how much i care about her still because she was the one that broke it off and wanted me in her life still. It sucks to not know as well. you can talk to me on my email if you want because i feel like we have the same kind of questions and might be able to figure stuff out. I have talked to so many people and I am just as lost as the day we broke up.