Can a family member get paid for takeing care of ...

I have to say Dyiana that answer was out of line, looking after someone with cancer can take all of your time and money - which of course is given up willingly, but help is needed at times. If you follow this link http://www.direct.gov.uk/en/CaringForSomeone/MoneyMatters/DG_10012522 you'll find information about carers allowance. Give them a call they were very helpful for me.

All the best.

Have you contacted Hospice? If your family agrees with some pay,it would come out of her checking/savings etc. But, that is the ONLY way it works.  Hang in there kiddo

Are you a registered CNA? (certified nursing assistant)  That is one way to qualify to be reimbursed for your time, but you will have to be approved. I agree with Mr. Mallows in regards to his comment to Ms. Dyiana, sometimes we would love to freely give up our time, but maybe I am a single parent and that is all of the income I have to support my family. Hospice is a wonderful choice and many insurances, or medicaid will help with the cost of care and equipment when needed. Use your time to visit, share some smiles, and love your mother during her illness. Those are the memories you will treasure. Take care-

No.

Ethically, family members are not permitted to medically treat their immediate family, even with a medical license. It's a conflict of interest.

You can, however, as other people have suggested, find other qualified caretakers, give yourself a freaking break and likely give more to your mom than money will ever buy.

If you are in the US, try the National Association of Caregivers or speak with your own family doctor to obtain a better support system that can help you find a different outlook on your situation.

Best regards,

YP

actually depends on the state you live in whether that state has a program or not.  Florida has a program which we are on and it does help by giving me some funds to help.  I know from experience that there are other states out there that have the same programs.  Also check with your persons with disabilities in your county and they have counselors to help you get services that are out there that you might not know about.  Also check with an elder law lawyer who might have connections to refer you too.  I am only making suggestions of where you can find help.

Look on medicaid and medicare websites becuase if they are disabled andhave medicaid or medicare also they will help you hire someone to help you take care of them.

as for the person who stated your family took care of you and now you should take care of them.... yes that is true but everyone needs some help and you need to know that their our lots of people that are trained to offer help but if they do not know theyknows can not offer you the help.  So ask becuase no one what your going thru either unless they have been there.

One more suggestion is some states have programs called relative care so check in with the agency for disabiliry or medicaid office and they can tell you if your state has it.  I can only speak of experience which Fl and NJ have it.

::Hanging my head in shame::

My apologies for my post, I guess it just sorta hit me wrong at the time I read it and I blurted out the first thing that came to mind. I must admit it is hard to type now though because I'm trying to pull my foot out of my mouth at the same time.

Again, I'm really sorry if I offended anyone.

disabledsfc - Your post gave me a thought - Medicaire does cover Hospice in some States (I'm not sure about medicaid). I think, though, once someone outside of an immediate family member has the responsibility of caregiving, that person can submit special requests for things Marion might have already paid for and she might be able to get reimbursed (ie - safety bars in a tub/shower, ambulatory devices - if they are already covered) There are also some senior/disabled pharmaceutical/aid product to-the-door delivery companies that work with Medicaire and bill Medicaire directly if a Hospice worker does not have that specific paperwork and might be able to get a retro-active payment through.  I suggest the National Association of Caregivers and family physician because they would best be able to help sort through the various types of options and qualified people to help (It might take one person for the caregiving and another to help with paperwork) It didn't occur to me though that in some cases, insurance will consider retro-active reimbursements.  It might be something asking about.

Marion, when you take on so much responsibility, it is ok to ask these people about this stuff and if you need help to get paperwork together, it's totally understandable. Your own doctor might be a very good person to turn to and be able to be in contact with your mom's physician to help get things through faster, so you can take a break; he/she will prioritize based on YOUR health needs, regardless but once it becomes financially overwhelming, you really need to have a different take on managing things before you make yourself too ill to think straight, for lack of a better way of putting it.

---- PEACE OUT!

Writer52 - I don't think Dyiana really meant it. I don't know if she or the Yedda team removed her post but, her apology was not to defend her first post - it's a tough topic, generally, perhaps something that no one helped her with or made difficult on her before the options that are available today, existed.

As you pointed out, Marion has many very good options, while her mom is recovering and both of their experiences can help improve, generally or specifically, healthcare, overall, if these supports are aware of where their educational materials don't let anyone fall through the cracks.

I don't know the stats but, they say, stress is the biggest killer.

Many of these orgs truly benefit from hearing (and helping/supporting) all people willing to fight to improve their situation. The majority of work is accomplished off-line although Yedda (TM) is often a lifeline for many people, for various reasons.

Again, stay cool, Marion - you'll find the resources that you know are best for you based on your understanding of your situation - If it were hopeless, you wouldn't have asked and found the support of others.

Please keep posting if you want or need to. People do care.