What am I supposed to believe?

I know a few couples who manage to patch things up after a breakup,
my husband's parents were actually separated for a couple of years when he was a child, and then got back together. They are one of the most romantic and beautiful couples I know now, and I'm sure the 2 years apart is a part of why they appreciate their love so much more.

However, in most cases, it doesn't work. You seem to be really really involved in what your ex \ partner is going through, but what about you? what it is that you want? I mean, I'm sure the relationship had it's problem, are you willing to accept tis guy back into your life with all the problems that you had before AND a big trust issue you have now as a result?! can you see any way the two of you can make sure that the relationship goes better from now on, or (and be honest with yourself on this) is this breakup only going to happened again with double the pain in 6 months from now?

To me it seem like you need to learn to focus on yourself now, and to come to making this choice  from a place of wanting to be with this specific guy and not just because the two of you shared a love a while ago. I would tell him you need time to think and I would take a couple of months to just life your life without any contact with your ex, if after a few months you are still interested then give him a call. 

hunny, this guy is messing with you. its like he's expecting you to  put you're life on hold and wait around until he finishes his buisness with this crazy woman he's been sleeping with. i dont know you're history but surely if this was once a trusting and happy relationship he would be completely devistated you broke up and unable to commit to somebody else straight away. on the other hand it depends on one's personality. if he is an unstable person he may have turned to somebody else for comfort and used the sex with these girls as a remedy for his broken heart. Alternitively he could be using you're break-ups as an oppertunity to sleep around. Of course after one and a half years together, only you know him best. If i were you i'd go with you're gut instinct on what to do next, its almost always correct. If you decide to take him back look at the root causes of you're break-ups and try to work round them. If you decide to call it a day remember that the heartache will only last for a couple of months, it depends on how stronger person you are.

good luck

GIRL FREIND !!!! U already know the answer Iam thinking!! He uses U to fall back on if all else fails..If he realy cared about U he would of never went out with the other girls.. In my opnion he can never be trusted again!!! The guy is just using U!!.. When U started out with your  question on here it was like U were trying to stick up for him and try to make your self believe all that crap!!! So if U want to stick with the loser then U will get what U get with him !!!!...Peace...TLA