My 5 year old granddaughter told me a few days ago that sometimes she doesn't feel "real". When I questioned her about this statement in detail, she couldn't offer any explanation. Is it possible for a young child to have "out of body experiences?" Have you ever heard of this? This is concerning me as a grandparent, and to me, it sounds like there's something mental going on w/her, and then again, she could have heard someone else say the same thing? She's also told this to her mother, and other grandmother, what are your thoughts on this? Just to sum up her personality, she's a very fragile person, spoiled so bad, she stinks, won't take no for an answer, is a bit of a manipulator, and in MY opinion exhibits all signs of being ADDHD. At 5 years of age, her outlook on life is falling in the lines of instant gratification. Any advice is welcome, Debbie
5 yr olds have great imaginations, and sometimes say things we adults find hard to make sense of. If it were my g'daughter I wouldn't worry too much.
Keep monitoring her and see how she develops.
Debbie, your granddaughter sounds a little like myself when I was her age. I never said it to any of my parents or to anyone but sometimes while I played with my toys & doll house and such I would wonder "are we someone elses dolls?, are we real?" Its not out of body experiences its your imagination going a little further than your mind can handle at that age. I would sit in the middle of my room & look around to see if someone else like a giant size kid was playing with me. Was I a Toy?
Unless shes experiencing something more serious & frightening to herself or others I would just let her be. I hope thats all shes going through.
Turn off the television and teach your children how to think.
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Five year olds are all about instant gratification. It's part of being five.
The biggest problem (as I see it), is that the adults in her life are either; a) spoiling her to death or b) analyzing her within an inch of her life.
She is a CHILD. Children are spoiled, selfish, fragile, busy, impulsive, inattentive, imaginative, manipulative, loving, self-absorbed - in other words, your granddaughter is PERFECTLY NORMAL.
The best way to handle your granddaughter is to set clear boundaries and expectations, speak clearly and succinctly (as well as honestly) and treat her as though she is an intelligent human being who is capable of listening and learning!
You may be surprised at how well she turns out, once you change your mindset from negative to positive. If you wonder why, then I'll just remind you of this small fact: Children live up, or down, to our expectations.
Think about what you've been expecting of her behavior. Based on the description of her you provided in this question, it's not a hell of a lot. (It sounds to me as though you do not think very highly of her.) So, why are you surprised she acts as she does? I'm certainly not surprised. I would act out, too; if I were treated that way.
With relatives who view her like this, the poor child certainly has no need for enemies; now does she?
she is only 5 years old give her some time to growup
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