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My boyfriend and I live together.  We just had a baby 4 months ago.  I found out the entire time we've been dating, he's been cheating.  While I was in the hospital recovering from giving birth, he brought one of his girlfriends into our home and had sex with her.  He swears he done cheating and wants to change his life.  He wants to fix our relationship and be a good father to our daughter.  I don't know how to get past the hurt.  Should I give him a chance to make things right, since we just had a daughter together or do I run like the wind?


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love2loveu22
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Life is lessons in love. No regrets. 

First, congratulations on the birth of your baby! Second, it's definitely hard to trust a partner after he's cheated. I think if you want to try to make this relationship work, you need to seek out couples counseling immediately. You should explain to your boyfriend that if he's serious about repairing your relationship, he needs to be agreeable to seeing a counselor as you are having a very hard time getting over the hurt of his behavior. If you need help finding a counselor, please don't hesitate to let me know. I'd be happy to help in any way I can.
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we are currently in counseling. the counselor saw me first, then she saw him and next week she's seeing us together.  but I'm not sure if he's taking the counseling serious.  the counselor seems to think he's just giving her answers he thinks she would want to hear and he seems to think our only problem is communication and not his lying or sex addiction with other women.  recently, he claims he's too tired to have sex and that he's more focused on fixing the family and working.  to me that's not normal for him to just not feel like having sex especially at the age of 32.  I'v asked him if there was something wrong or something he didn't like and he says he's just tired from work and assures me his is content and happy but wants to focus on fixing our relationship and doesn't want it to be about sex.  I did let him know that I don't want to hold him back from someone else if that person makes him happier emotionally or sexually.  But he refuses to let our relationship go.
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Thefiremommy
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i agree totally you need to seek counseling.  After counseling you can better make a decision for the best welfare of yourself and your baby.
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Thefiremommy
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i suggest that you continue with counseling but for the sake of your sanity listen to what the counselor has to say and follow her advice.   You also should watch his cues, however, don't make yourself crazy.  It is he who has something to prove not you.  Good Luck.
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well i think u should keep going to cousling but u will know the answer that u want from inside out listen to ur self, trust me i wish i would have !!!
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