Should we stay friends?

The best advice I can give you from my own personal experience which is VERY similar to yours, is that you have to move on because I can gaurantee this guy might love you now, but men do NOT have the lasting honest love that women do.  The best thing to do is stay civil (not close) with him and seriously move on the best you can.  Hope the best for him, and work on taking care of yourself.  After, he left you so his loss not yours!

I have been there! If you really believe that for now you can be friends with him (which from experience I believe is nearly impossible to remain friends with an ex), then strengthen that friendship. You only have the power over your relationship with him and not over his relationship with this other girl. Trust me, obsessing wont help either! You can not change the reality of things; you are not his girlfriend right now. This may be upsetting to hear, but you deserve an amazing guy who will love you and be thrilled to be with you. It is my belief that by being his friend, you are being put in an awkward situation (will you really feel comfortable hearing about his love life right now?). I did this with an ex, stayed friends and we were in each others lives after we broke up and it hurt so badly. I would have to sit and listen about his new relationship problems and give him advice. In short, cut your losses and move on (easier said then done, I know).

I'm amazed at the numbr of women I come across who seem to be "fatal attractions," in the making. When the relationship involves sex at an early age many things can happen, and your case is a good example because now your boyfriend has found someone else. The easiest way for a guy to ease out of a potential powder cage is to say let's be friends. If you can do it w/o sex fine but you aren't on that page, you still want him. Since you know theres someone else, just chill completely. He doesn't need "Joan of Arc," to come to his rescue. His Mother must know you to tell him what she did. Since she maybe paying the cost to be the boss and he lives under her roof he's going to think twice...about you. In the meantime move on with your life, the pain will only last a little while.

Dearest Cori:   you sound like a sweet young woman, however, you need to be really mature about this and step back.  He obviously wants to the with that other girl, so just let go and let him do his thing.  In the mean time, meet other people.  Remember, no one can force another to want to be with them...if it is really what they want, they will be together, so don't try forcing anything.  It NEVER works.  Give yourself a break and let go of him in a calm and civilized way.   No anger.  Part as friends, no hard feelings, but stay friends at a distance. There are so many different personalities out there, go explore for YOU, enjoy, be safe and BE YOU, no act, be real.  Keep me posted by email pls & ty.  Hugs to you.