You have to understand the difference between love and lust. You can be in love and in lust with many people over the course of a lifetime, people within and without relationships, and with people suited and unsuitable. The main thing to understand is that you don't have to acknowledge them like a lemming. You can also control to a very tight degree, with practice, what distractions you will pick up on. True love is unselfish even though at times one sided. You have to care about the other person more than yourself. If the person brings out the good in you or makes you want to realize goals and better yourself than you are on the path to true love. If the person is toxic, carries excessive baggage, and causes you mindless distraction and drama you are in a lethal trap with tremendous ramifications. People who are healthy will avoid you like the plague if you flirt and cavort with people who you are trifling with or when you are obviously the fool.