How Should A Spouse Behave At A Company Picnic ...

I think that the only way that you are going to sort out this problem is to start talking to one another. Communication is the key in all relationships and you need to give your husband a chance to explain himself. Maybe something was really bothering him. Maybe it was something that he needed and wanted to talk to you about but now you have stopped him from being able to. It's ok for you to be upset at how the picnic went but you should still give him the chance to try and explain to you what happened before getting so angry at him.

He was a jerk and he hurt you in front of those you work with. He didnt care enough to act as friendly and showed himself for what he is. Has there been other times he hurt you in front of family or friends?  If so you need to have a talk and explain you will cut his balls off in front of his family and friends. Then do it.

So....like did U guys arrive in different cars??? If Not, why weren't U Constantly aware of where he was??? Why weren't U "Holding Hands" (of the MOST IMPORTANT PERSON in Ur LIFE) or sharing the "Picnic Basket Handle"??? This "Marriage?" was "Broken before the Picnic" & it sounds to me that U (like so many out there Honey) have Forsaken & Forgotten the "Reason (Ur Family/Husband) U Work"! Every morning when U wake, do U roll over & express how glad U are to be there with him? Do U allow him to make the "Mistakes" for the "Both of U" as his "Role Dictates, Truly being the Head of the Family" or have U ever Followed Scripture in this Relationship??? Think about it, U "Direct him through Love & Obedience" as Scripture says & U will Reap the Benefits!!! Or, U can "Drive him Off" (like at the Picnic) to someone/thing else. Remember, for U to Have the "Perfect Husband", U must BE the "Perfect Wife" by letting him know he's #1 in Ur life!!! Tonight, "Fake a Tight Back" & enjoy having him "Rub it Out" as U talk about whatever comes Up. Just Enjoy the Time Together & Leave "Work" @ "Work" because Ur home with him NOW!   John

I do understand your anger and frustration, but if you continue to block each other out you are setting this up to happen again. Is this behavior typical social situation behavior for you two, i.e., are you an outgoing person and your husband an introvert. Does he do better talking to people one on one than in groups?  Give him a chance to explain what happened and ask him how you both can handle things differently next time. Does everyone in his company go to these picnics? If not maybe you can skip it next time. You were the supportive spouse trying to help your husband look good, but you feel he deserted you and disrespected your efforts. Try using "I" words to explain your feelings to him and encourage him to do the same. Good luck.

Your husband may of felt you could handle yourself there on your own. Are you outgoing?? I think some men feel their wives are secure with themselves that they don't need to make introductions or stay with their partner at functions like this.  But you need to air out the grievence between you. He was probably off with a buddy but he should know your feelings about being left alone so it does not happen again this way and put you in an uncomfortable position

You must have arrived in two cars, right? Anyway, I think you would have been well advised to hae stayed at the picnic until he reappeared. As it was his company pick and his boss saw you leave you may have created a bigger problem than what was there in the first place. You also would have been able to know whether he was with anyone - I am not jumping to something underhanded. But it would be worth hearing his side of it. As another person stated communication is key.

You should have stuck around to see when he reappeared, and who with. But would haves & should haves don't work after the fact. Talk to him.........

A couple of things come to mind immediately. First of all, if there was a lake nearby and he wasn't at the picnic table, that should have raised a red flag. Next time, go look for him. Secondly, you have some severe ego issues as you feel like this is a one way street. It isn't. You two have some baggage which you've been carrying around since long before you were married which is now causing you serious trouble. You may benefit from counseling. Above all, be kind and compassionate. Be respectful. You may not know what is really eating at him. He may not know himself. Open up to him and ask him if there is anything you can do to help. And you must explain that you were hurt by his actions and embarrassed. You may need to take the lead here. There is some deep fear lurking. Uncomfortable as it may be, know that you will feel better soon after discussing this. I hope this helps. J