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Does social and economic status matter in a relationship?   The young women i am currently pursuing is middle class...you know...always lived in the suburbs never had to worry about anything in her life. Really well off. Got a car at 16.  College tuition was paid before she finished highschool...you know. Her past boyfriend is one of the number one basketball players in the US and will probably be in the NBA in a few years... Me im from the hood  ...i have been the lowest of the low at times.  my parent died when i was young and i had to work hard all my life to maintain.  Living paycheck to paycheck at times. and even turned to illegal stuff for awhile!!!!  As of now im working with a great company and have gotten 2 promotions this year already!  My work ethic is great because i came from nothing and i know to stay where im at i must keep learning and advancing.  Im totally on the rise right now.  And I would really like to be with this girl. I am a very loving and sincere person and would treat her like the queen she is.  She motivates me to do better and stay out of trouble you know.. Now this girl knows of me but we have only spoken a few times i really would like to approach her but the question is how do i do that???...And do i even have a chance?? 


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If it's not fun, you're doing it wrong.

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Professor Snotsengabber, a charter member of S.N.O.T.S.

I don't know if she's good enough for you, since you have proven the quality of your character, and she hasn't had the chance yet to prove herself with the world.  But you seem to have a high opinion of her, so go it.  There is a lot to said about social and economic classes, and much of it is hogwash.  The circumstances you are born into often define your outlook, but is not the end all and be all.  Rich people can have a low quality character as easily as poor people, or middle class people.  The same for a high quality character.

   For some people material possessions and background are important, and if she is this way, she might like you for a while but not be satisfied with you for long.  If she is more interested in how she looks to the world than in the substance of her world, then your image probably won't suit her.

On the other hand, if she is a person with a high quality character, how you act, not what you have, is more important.  It shouldn't matter how much money either one of you have in your pocket, since this is not what personal relationships are based upon.  It is based upon mutual interests and the spiritual and moral values you have in common.

Go for it, and if she turns you down, or dumps you after a short time, at least you tried.  You will not have the regret that comes from not trying, and you will learn something.

As to the how in your question, just walk up to her and tell her that you would like to get to know her better.  Suggest doing something together that is safe and non emotional, like having a soda together (or coffee or an ice cream cone, whatever) that will give you a chance to talk.  Pick any activity that has people around and gives you a chance to talk.  Going to a school game is good if you want to ask her on a date.  Movies and dancing tend to not give you a chance to talk.  They are actually designed so people don't have to talk on dates.  Miniature golf is good for talking.

Don't bother trying to live up to her old boyfriend.  If he was that good she would have kept him.  Being an athlete doesn't make someone a good person, except to their fans, if they have any.  Just be yourself, your real self.  Don't spread the bull, don't lie, don't brag or boast because you feel insecure or have to live up to something.  All you have to do is be you and give her a chance to learn who that is.

There are a million women looking for a guy like you, and if she doesn't see the good in you, I know that someone else will. 

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     Profitbob gave you an excellent answer.   I gave him 2 thumbs up.  You just need to approach her and date her where you will have a chance to really talk and exchange ideas.  You will know from talking to her if she puts material things and status more importance in choosing a boyfriend.  You'll know if she is down-to-earth or practical.   You'll find out if you have a lot of things in common like values, ambitions, dreams, goals etc.  Somebody could look attractive on the outside, but when you talk to them, you'll find out that they're  not the person that you're looking forward to live with forever and that you are not really compatible with each other.

    If after meeting with her, you could tell that she likes you and you think you have that mutual chemistry, then invite her again for more fun activities like sports, drive in the country or whatever she prefers to do.

     Goodluck with this.

 

Thankx a million Profitbob!   Your answer was very helpful.   Im gonna go for it ! Hopefully she sees me for who i am and likes it. And if not im sure ill find some.   Thanks again bro!

Posted 2008-06-10T09:45:54Z
 

Thankx a million Profitbob!   Your answer was very helpful.   Im gonna go for it ! Hopefully she sees me for who i am and likes it. And if not im sure ill find some.   Thanks again bro!

Posted 2008-06-10T09:46:13Z
 
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If it's not fun, you're doing it wrong.

FREE !!!  Help the U.N. feed people by playing a free game at freerice.com    It's free, fun and educational.

Professor Snotsengabber, a charter member of S.N.O.T.S.

You're welcome.  Good luck.  Let us know how it goes, good or bad.  No matter what, treat yourself and her with dignity.

 

Hey guys I asked this question quite awhile ago and since then I havent been able to track this girl down .... tomorrow which is Christmas Day will be another chance if not my last(probably for awhile) to present myself to her and see if we have THAT chemistry or anything ....it will be My best friend (which is her older cousin)... Me and Her....hes going to come pick me up in the evening with her in the car also....and the 3 of us are going for a ride in the country...which will be the perfect opportunity for me and her to talk and see if we like each other...he knows how i feel about her and thinks me and her will really hit it off....I just hope she sees me for the person i am.......Well wish me luck......Ill let u know how it turns out okay

Posted 2008-12-25T09:34:09Z
 
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If it's not fun, you're doing it wrong.

FREE !!!  Help the U.N. feed people by playing a free game at freerice.com    It's free, fun and educational.

Professor Snotsengabber, a charter member of S.N.O.T.S.

Good luck, and thanks for keeping us posted.

 
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The lines are drawn in the sand, the American people are alive and awake, well most anyway.
Kick it and call names, Let the Freedom Ring

Life is very short.  Ask her out for dinner.  What can happen to you?  She says no?  Does that kill you?  No it does not.  Each time you ask someone you admire out it gets easier. 

Apparently she was abit of upper Middle Class.  Has had everything handed to her.  Perhaps she is not your cup of tea afterall.  However you will not know until you open up and say how about joining me for dinner tonight. 

Nothing is out of your reach or anyone else's.  If you can dream it you can achieve it and that is not my original saying, so many great men have said it, just can not remember their names at the moment.

Your going up and up and up.  Keep on going.

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