I am 40 and have never had an orgasm, how can I ...

Have you ever experienced orgasm while masturbating?

Most problems occur due to what I call "Mental Blocks". It might be related to the partners you have had, or to the amount of intimacy you feel with yourself.

I think it's better for you to consult a sexologist, it's very hard to point the cause without knowing your personal background and medical history.  

You should really considering visiting  a therapist and discussing this problem, it might have something to do with your childhood and views about sex that your parents instilled in you. Maybe going with your partner might also be helpful.

There is logic and a method based explanation to everything. As other friends have suggested you to visit a sexologist, it may solve the purpose, but I am highly doubtful. Sexual satisfaction and orgasm is all about you, your body, your sexual partner and your intercourse with him/her. A sexologist may give you a therapy or medicines that might cause you enforced orgasm but the feel of a natural orgasm will be not there. You have to perform an analysis of ur self. Have you ever had sex with any other partner than ur now partner? Did you experience the same problem even then? What are the pleasure and pain points that you like or dislike having sex? Do you still have a significant sex apetite?

I am sure answers to these questions can lead to a solution.

There's a wonderful vibrator called the rabbit.Now...they say most women like to fantasize but...I do not have time for all that so I have my stash of porn and my rabbit for when my boyfriend is away.You come from a generation that wasn't as outspoken about sex as we are now.The problem doesn't have to be in your head.Light some candles,draw the drapes or hell leave em open if that's what your into.Have a glass of wine and seduce yourself.It probably won't happen within the first four of five minutes and you need a chance to warm up.Relax...and thank me later!

try to relax before sex drink wine turn on some candels forget the world just think about you and your partner.or maybe your not in love with him,or u know sex is sharing giving and taking so maybe in the bed your partner take and dont give love...ect anyway try to enjoy it try to take and give

are you female or male

get him to stimulate your breasts for ten miutes first

You should think about getting a large, German Shephard, male dog who is not neutered. They can be lots of fun and you do not have to worry about getting pregnant or an std.  Plus they will always, at least, act like they love you and they cost almost nothing to support.