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Did no sex kill the potential relationship?

I met "D" on eHarmony, and got to know her over 4 months. We talked about sex and even had "phone sex". On the day we met, she told me "I am not having sex with you tonight". The next day, I bought condoms...and then when she was in my hotel room, I got nervous and just talked away seemingly endlessly. We were together the next couple of days and had normal fun together, but now (from a distance) she is very hard to reach and seems distant. The question then is this: Does unfulfilled sexual desire in women mean an end to a potential relationship forming? I wanted to be a gentleman, but now it seems I did the wrong thing, by not doing "it".


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Love is the battery of life....

Hi,


I hope you are an open person and I can be direct and true:  Yes sure.  She expected much more (and that's what she is probably used too) and you dissapointed her.....  she probably feels you are not "her type"... and not enough open and spontaneous with your relations with womem.  Please don't take it as an insult, she is not for you..... now better find a lady that will suit a gentleman like you.....  Nothing is wrong with you and better don't blame yourself. 
Best regards from warm Thailand.
Posted 2008-02-29T10:39:58Z
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Well to be blunt, do you want the future mother of your six children or a whore for the night? You better decide. Good women are out there, but if you treat them like a piece of meat you deserve what you get.
Posted 2009-06-21T04:52:52Z
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What is she doing in your hotel room after telling you that "She is not having sex with you tonight?" 
Posted 2009-07-16T18:33:58Z
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OronD What the heck are you doing in Thiland ?

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Posted 2009-09-06T18:22:59Z
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I'm sorry, Ryan 2020 I got side tracked.  It's true, she was probably expecting more.

Maybe it's not to late to  get back in with her, if that is what you want.  Explain to her just what you have explained to us.  She probably thinks that she made a fool of herself.   If you want this lady in your life ask for another meeting.  Be ready to apologize and slow down.  If there is a connection between you, it will show up .

Just explain to her that the problem was you not her.  Be up front and honest.  No one wants to go to a Motel room with certain things in mind and leave with the feeling that you don't find her sexually desirable.

Good luck with this one.  Have her read the posts that should let her know how you feel.  Of course she will be embarrased.

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Posted 2009-09-06T18:32:52Z
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