First, this is a long shot, but see a sleep doctor to have them check to see if you might have sleep apnea. Overwieght snorers often do have it. Its easy, painless to do a sleep study to see. IF you do have Sleep Apnea and they recommend you use a C Pap Machine when you sleep, you will be helping your health greatly AND you will NOT be heard snoring when using it. Otherwise, I don't know of any easy and sure ways to fix snoring and think most other claims for products to do much for it are dubious.
Secondly, about your bi sexual curiousity, you should get some counseling on it and find out that some level of curiousity about it or some occassional urges even in that direction might be normal and nothing to be concerned about (you will have to explain it to a sex therapist with some details to get FULLY INFORMED on that topic). Then you can decide if it is something you can and should keep contained or suppressed or whether that is going to cause you serious problems trying to suppress it; once you know that you should then let your wife get advised by the therapist, especially if the therapist can assure her that it was merely normal and passing "ideation about sex with a guy" and is pretty common or normal and that it does not mean you will or really wanted to "actualize" it (do anything) and that it is therefore really pretty moot and harmless to her (something she should not feel threatened by or uncomfortable with). Hearing that from you, is one thing. But hearing it from a professional can be much more convincing and persuasive for her (quite naturally).
The hardest case scenario would be if you and the counselor figured out that you really do have an unrepresssible desired for bi sexual activities and that you do need to actualize those needs in the future. This would raise much more difficult issues involving whether you "cheat" and sort of live a double life OR whether you and the counselor try to share this with the wife and try to see if she can accept that and continue to be married to you and to continue to have a sexual relationship with you. A few women can accept that; most probably can not or will not.
Lastly, from experience and as a matter of my personal philosphies both, I would say that you should try to preserve the "family unit" if it can be done ... a "nuculear family; all together" is clearly the ideal ... it is best for all involved in the long run if it can be done on a health and amicable and supportive basis. Try to save a marriage with children, if it can be accomplished in any sensible manner.
Good luck-- to you, your wife and your family.
ROB
