When my husband i have sex he always gets off ...

I had the same problem and knowing how passionate I am really doesn't amount to a hill of beans when I think gosh if I was 20 years younger One day driving thru a local town I found a sex store, the store was filled with toys for ladies and tools for men, you know how we are with our tools, anyway I found a penis pump that makes me larger pride kicking in at this point but hey and a ring that when placed at the base will stop any ejaculation until you remove it, The ladies at the store emphasized that daily use is recommended so that's better right, and can be alot of fun when you both play with these tools, caution the pump will at first feel as if the penis is about to be pulled off and I found that a little shaving helps as the pump pulls anything that enters the area.

OK, Here's my two cents worth, (Not a professional on the subject.) I believe most boys grow accustomed to ejaculation as a "hurry up before I'm caught" situation that leads one into thinking that getting there is the main goal.  In short, a mature lover has learned to put his partner first.

Now your husband has a serious problem because if in fact the situation is a conditioned response, this will quickly act on his confidence.  Here are several suggestions to help a healthy male get over this problem; First, learn to take is slow. Stop stimulations for short periods of "cool down" and make it a goal to put off intercourse as long as possible.

Prolonged periods of foreplay should involve some gentile coaching on the woman’s part to show us, (men in general) that a woman’s body is totally built for SEX. It is simply not a single area of skin involved, but the whole package, so begin with simple massage, intimate kissing and slow moments of exploration and gentle caress. 

Some advocate that the male ejaculates before an expected sexual encounter; I know this has helped me in the past.

Communication and your willingness to open and patient are everything here. Your man could be the best lover of your life it everything he does is exactly what you fantasize about. Also, best lovers are serious “change up artists” that is; the game plan is changed regularly, with extra points given for creativity.  I’m not talking about crazy kinky stuff, (Kinky all the time can be quite bad for a healthy relationship in my opinion) but right now it sounds like your far from this at this point.

One more thing about men- we don’t talk about this with other men. So we’re quite alone in these issues. Many of us get our “love training” from porn. There can be no worse training materials out there than your run of the mill porn movie. So the best teachers available are experienced, open and loving lover who is not afraid to allow us to explore, make mistakes and still feel welcomed.

I am certainly no doctor or expert, and while I have had my share of experience no man has ever given me an orgasm. So I say indulge in foreplay make

I feel your fustration and a technequie i learned was when he feels like hes going to come get him to with draw.put your two fingers around the head of the penis and apply pressure.this will stop him from coming and you can resume.You can do this as many times as you like and he will always mentain a erection and you both will be able to go for ages.Hope his helps.it requires a bit of practice with the pressure it wont hurt.Happy long lasting sex.hope this helps.

Most sex therapists and sex educators around the world prescribe a series of exercises to enable the man to gain ejaculatory control. These are considered the first line of treatment, and are usually recommended to be tried before other methods. Now you must have searched the internet for the treatment of PE and you must have found some general techniques for its abolition. But all these are rudimentary and outdated methods for controlling Pre Mature Ejaculation. We shall compare each so called popular method for controlling PE stepwise. Start Stop Technique: It is the most common exercises which every one knows but applied by none due to its drawbacks. In SS technique during sex when male feels that he is getting too close to orgasm, he stops and does not move, to avoid more stimulation. He may withdraw his penis, or stay inside and request that his partner also not move. He waits seconds or minutes until his arousal lessens, and then resumes sex.

Drawbacks: The major drawback of “Start Stop” technique is that it is a KILLER of orgasm and pleasure of SEX. You can imagine as when a patient is suffering from Hypersensitivity then it becomes impossible to actually employ SS technique in actual sex with a women. Also the feelings of passion are so strong and urge of women is so high even if a man is willing to stop he could not because of the demands of women. So SS technique remains a theoretical method only. It completely fails on practical grounds.

Same is the case with Squeeze technique as it practically fails to produce any results as observed by us in numerous of Early Ejaculation Patients

Your Husband must be feeling performance Anxiety as this is common pressure developed in married men.

If case is severe then we advise certain herbal combination which are higly benificial in removal of performance Anxiety. These are not hormonal or Anti Depressants or SSRI as they have lot of side effects These are completely safe Herbal Ayurvedic medicines which are specifically effective in Premature Ejaculation conditions.

But in your case i recommend him to learn Screw Technique

In Screw massage penis is alternatively massages in cork screw motion in alternative direction with alternate hands to increase the Latent Period of Ejaculation (This is the period in which a man ejaculates) As PE patient practices Screw Massage his duration for Ejaculation considerably increased.

We have seen upto 250% increase in Total Stay Time and in Total number of strokes in various studies in men in a period of just 1 week of the start of the sessions.

Most wonderful thing with practicizing Screw Massage is that it’s all external and a PE patient can do this in his privacy for 10 minutes a day without his partner being noticing any kind of treatment. Gradually PE patient considerably improves and his ejaculation comes under control of his own will i.e. he ejaculates when he desires.

For Learning and Training of Techniques in complete removal of Premature Ejaculation you can contact

Dr Anil

Sr Sex Specialist