I just had a conversation with a friend who has a unique system for setting up dates with women…
The best part about it is how he actually gets women to ASK HIM OUT when he is talking to them on the phone!
Here’s how he does it:
He simply calls a woman up and talks in detail about an interesting and exciting thing he’s planning on doing.
A few examples he gave were rollerblading by the beach, boxing in the park, going to happy hour with friends, and going to a “secret” restaurant where they make awesome deserts.
Somewhere along the way the woman will say, “That sounds fun”… or even better… “Can I come?” or “I want to go!”
And what kind of man would my friend be to turn her down?
Another great thing about this system is what he does if they DON’T hint or ask to join him.
He simply says “bye” and that he’ll talk to them later.
This seems simple… but in reality it’s VITALLY important.
Because he didn’t end the conversation with a “next step”… like “I’ll call you later this week” or “call me when you want to hang out”… either person can call the other WITHOUT giving up their power.
Think about it…
If at the end of a phone call you say to a woman, “Call me this Saturday” and she DOESN’T call… then you are giving up your power if you call her again.
Along those same lines, if you end a call with “I’ll give YOU a call on Saturday”, she can’t call you until you call her first without giving up HER power.
On the other hand, if you end the call with “I’ll talk to you later” and later that night she happens to feel like getting together, she is totally free to call you up.
And… if you end a call with “I’ll talk to you later” you can call her again whenever YOU feel like it without looking like a wuss.
And if the next time you call her it doesn’t go anywhere… but you end that call without a “next step”… you can call her again whenever you want.
Here’s the bottom line:
If you end every call like this, you can KEEP ON calling her until she asks you out.
But based on my experiences, after you call a woman a couple of times and tell her about interesting things you are doing, even if she can’t meet with you that day, she will call you when she can… because she’ll assume you’ll be doing something fun.
In fact, if you just remember these two keys to phone conversations, you’ll be amazed at how often women CALL YOU UP to ask you to hang out.
Here they are again:
1. Talk about interesting things you are doing
2. Don’t end the call with a “next step”… simply say “I’ll talk to you later”.
Be sure to write these down somewhere. This is important stuff.