What do I do to remind her of her love for me?

Hi Jeffdamann,

I understand that you and your girlfriend love eachother very much, but it sounds to me like you are stuck in a cycle that is never going to change. I was in a relationship in the past that started and stopped many times, but the same things always happened. In my opinion, sometimes the best way to show someone how much you love them, is to let them move on with their lives. Believe me that I know how much it hurts, but in the end, it is definitely the best thing for everyone.

I'm not trying to tell you what to do, but I am asking you to think about what i've said.

Good luck.

You can sing for her beneath her window but the best romantic thing a person does is not the usual cliche things you see in movies but something veryy personal you are good at that reflects how much you love her. Get inspired by some crazy thing you both like. Surprise her and take her a trip just the two of you to a very quiet romantic island or so. I advise you to fix your problems and show her that you have control over your anger. And don't expect her to answer you and get back quickly because there is nothing more exhausting than a relationship that needs a lot of work. Just don't give up and keep trying. If she really loves, she'll get back to you. It's a matter of time. make her a video of your best moments together. Surprise her by small significant gestures. Absolutely, the best thing is anger control. Good luck!

Jeffdamann:

      I can understand some of what you are going through. I am much older...but I went through a period of time where I was with many girls...all in search of love. What I realized is that even if this realationship doesn't work for you...everything that you are doing is a learning experience that will serve you well later. I think the biggest thing that you need to do right now is work out your own issues, as its almost impossible to find the right person unless you can be the right person. As far as getting yourself together...I think you need to find a way to deal with your anger issues for sure. That should be step one. As far as the issues between the two of you, both of you need to figure out while you fight for silly reasons. I think it might just be a maturity thing...but I'm basing this primarily on your age and the small section of the bigger picture that you have offered here. I think that you need to develop a sense of respect between the two of you...and with true respect between the two of you, the fights should become minimal. Should is the operative word. Something else to consider is, during the fights that you have, is it because one of you feels the need to be right about things?? If so, one of the things that you will learn as you mature is that sometimes its better to be happy than it is to be right. You will learn a level of tolerance with your partner that will also help minimize fights. Anyway...first things first...deal with your anger issues. As far as finding "one" act to show your love...anything that you do that is from the heart is likely to be received this way...but getting in the habit of doing things all of the time that show your love is not a bad idea...from flowers for no reason, to just a quick call because you were thinking of her. Any of these things are the right thing to do in most cases.

Gabriel

It's tough, but this ones not exactly a keeper. She isn't doing the right things, and youre not feeling wonderful, either. Just let her go, and tell her that if she is going to treat you that way, things just can't work out. It will be hard, but it must be done.

It seems that you are so worried. I know you are havign a difficult time but I think you need is to trust and have faith fo her. Don't over react so that there will be no fights. Try not to voice or act out you anger, sometimes it is better that way. Make her happy all the timje, praise her and tell her that you love her. Court her everyday. Do something that will make her smile and make her remember you.

If you have a problem it is beeter that you talk rather than shout or even fight. Things can always be positive if you just react in a positive way. Have a healthy relationship.

This "romance" sounds like Al Capone-Eliot Ness. Look, you started your career as a gigolo, nailing everything that moved. My first concern would be if you're really okay physically. A checkup with bloodwork is definitely in order. Secondly, psychiatric work is needed to help your outbursts. All you've ever done is to use women for your selfish desires. That's not how a relationship is built. Forget trying to get this girl back until/unless you can straighten yourself out.

All this drama and baggage at your age? It sounds like she isn't worth keeping my friend. Imagine 10 years on, married with kids and she's still pulling these kind of things? Would you put up with it? Would you have to? Cut her lose, don't fight and find someone else.

You should Ben Franklin this situation, and my dear it is indeed a fiasco to say the least.  You need some clarity, you seem muddled and befuddled and too close to the forest to see the trees.

Take a piece of paper.  Put a line down the middle.  On one side write down all the Positive aspects of your relationship????  One the other side put down the Negative aspects.  Those things that have happened during all this time that make you unhappy, confused.  Then compare them. 

If the good outweighs the bad then you are on the right path.  If you find the bad is overwelming and you have spent more time unhappy and confused than happy, well it is time to say goodbye.

Life is long, there is a world of people, good, bad and ugly.  Go for the good.  It will sit well.

Do the right thing.