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Why dont long distant relationships work out??         Can you fall in love with someone over the phone?


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Many relationships don't work, in person or long distance, and there are many, many reasons for this.  Long distance relationships have many disadvantages from the start that in person ones don't.

The true physical attractiveness  of both people is unknown to the other and this is generally one of the first things people find out in person.  Now, looks aren't everything, and in a perfect world would count for very little, but it is somewhat important for intimacy.

The true person does not always show through in long distance communications.   Many people use the anonymity of the internet to hide the things that keep them from forming in person relationships.  They have more control over what they reveal and conceal, and have the ability to lie without being discovered. When the reality is revealed, the relationship is shown to be based on misinformation, and can come to an abrupt end.

Long distance relationships do sometimes work out.  I have seen some examples.  On the whole, it takes two honest people for it to work. 

 

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   I know about long distance relationships.  It is not for everybody.  For it to be successful, the two people involved have to be honest and mature in the way they think.

   This has its disavantages.  As profitbob said, one of the parties could lie about things.  Well to avoid this, after  you have been talking on the  phone or communicating via e-mail for a few months,  both parties should make an effort to visit each one's place of residence, meet their friends and relatives to see what kind of person he or she is.  Another thing to do is to do a research via internet the background check of the other person to see if he or she had some criminal  record.  You don't want to be dealing with an ex-convict.

     Overall, on-line dating could be more expensive because both parties have to visit each other every so often. 

    Just like dating someone who lives closeby, on-line dating could also work out.  I have seen friends who met this way and have successful marriages.

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Mine did - I met a guy by total accident online - he came across my blog and we started talking. I was living in Israel and he was living in the USA. We put a lot of effort and time and love and attention into it, and though the year of living apart was difficult, it really worked for us.

We have been married and living together for a year and a half now and couldn't be happier.

How do you make it work? by really putting open communication as first priority and by dedicating a lot of time to each other - webcams, microphones, e-mails, snail mail helps...

 
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Yes, they can work -- over time and with two individuals acting like mature adults. Being honest with each other and communicating well is really key here. 

 

As I see it, the main problem with long-distance relationships (my experience was he moved away and THEN the relationship blossomed) is staying involved in each other's day-to-day lives.  It takes a lot of effort to stay close when you're not sharing everyday life.   

 
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Yes, Long distance relationships can and do sometimes work out.  I have seen and known of some examples.  It takes two honest people, lots of communication and determination on the parts of both the parties for it to work out. 

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