Hello,
Im having a difficult time figuring out whether or not a girl is interested in me. There's a lot a reasons why i could say she does but they could also be way off. This is long but i think it helps to answer.
Just so you know a little about me i am a female to male transexual and that has a little to do with answering this question. I don't care for ignorant comments. For those who are understanding it would be great to have your feedback.
I've been very fond of this girl for a year now. The first time we started noticing each other we would look at one another and smile. We were both pretty shy and the first time i sat next to her to talk to one of her friends i met before knowing her she was very quiet and would laugh at my jokes.
The first time we talked was at a vegetarian club meeting. She told me "Dean i really like you" and i didnt know whether she was being friendly or meant it because we never spoke before hand. I smiled at her because we were in a group of people helping cook food.She also asked to put something around my wrist for the peace awareness week.
Everytime we saw each other from that point she would give me a high five( or find some way to touch my hand)and smile. Sometimes she would pick on me out of nowhere. I never had a good comeback.
This one time i hurt my hand and pulled back fast and said ouch, she told me that that was cute and i acted like i didnt hear it and said what..she said something along the lines of "i thought that was cute" but tried to cover it up like she didnt mean to say it or didnt want me to know and i made a small comment to show that she could say that to me and it didnt bother me.
She seemed to really like her space though and still does. Which makes me wonder whether or not she likes me. One day she'll say we don't talk enough, tell me that im not around enough and have long conversations. The next she will not want to talk at all.
I thought maybe the mixed signals had to do with her questioning her sexuality because I've heard her make many comments about the same sex and on her myspace it says she's not sure of her sexuality. I get the vibe that she's bi and although i identify as male bi females are normally better with things than straight females.She's asked me questions about being trans and makes a point every now and then to let me know how okay she is with gay,lesbian,bisexual and transgender issues.
Every time i see her she finds a way to touch my hand. There's been points were we slap hands together and slowly let go, we read a childrens book together and our hands were touching while holding it and we didn't move and she shared food with me and when our hands were touching we didn't move away fast. She told me one day that seeing me and highfiving was the highlight of her day while walking past her one day. I told her "thats awesome" and she said " i really mean it though" in a playful way.
A couple of weeks ago i saw her while walking to the gym from my dorm, she was on her way to the library and we took a shortcut. We ended up going to the college bookstore and i walked her back to the library afterwords. She asked me " werent you on your way to the gym" when i didnt turn and leave and i told her that id take another way when we both knew it was closed. I think she has to know and im trying to be calm, give her space and not make it too obvious. After this she was still cool with me..doing the thing where we touch hands and dont move, still giving me long hugs when we see each other etc etc.
I guess it seems obvious to me that she does like me but it throws me off when there's times where she doesn't talk to me. She's also pretty nice to most people but I've never seen her act the way she does with me with other people.
I dont know what to do because i dont want to risk our friendship, or make things weird. We have a lot of the same friends and im friends with all of her roommates. I'd rather take things slow and see if anything happens but im just looking for outside comments. Thanks