he's got a very bad sense of humor then .. critisizing  someone and then saying it was just a joke ain't funny at all .. and who  is he to judge you . you either love the person for who he or she is or not .. why should you change for someone who is not accepting as you are? emotional abuse is not a good sign even if it's suppose to be a joke .. are you laughing ? no i don't think so ..he might feel insecure himself about his image .. tell him that it ain't funny and if he doesn't accept you as you are  it's his problem  you need to love yourself first don't live your life to please others ..