My girlfriend of 2 months recently came out of a 2 year relationship. Things were pretty intense and she said she thought she was falling for me. The last few weeks she has cooled off. We talked where she said she was unsure if we should carry on. We decided to keep things casual but I don't know if she's ready to be with me. Should I give it more time or break it off in case its just a rebound. We also work in the same place but only see each other at shift changes occasionally. Any advice would be appreciated.
Boy Howdy a relationship for 2 years is not going to dissipate anytime soon. If you are really into her then the only thing you can do is be her friend, talk, walk, meet now and again for dinner etc etc etc do not push or demand anything just be there. Get to really know her, let her get to know you.
Then perhaps as you share thoughts together and you begin to see each other as the people you are something will grow from it. She needed someone after the break-up, you where there, she was most likely taken with the attention then old memories, as they so often do, probably began to hit her hard. One does not get over a relationship that lasted for 2 years easily. A relationship that included Holidays, touching, feeling and sharing intimacy. It just does not happen instantly and all those emotions are over. Most of us never totally forget something like that. However we do finally come to some sense of understanding the then and now and begin once more to immerse ourselves in the present.
The past does not keep you warm at night.
My thoughts.
