Amanda34
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Will this relationship work?

I am currently on a break with my bf of a year and a half, i love him and i know that he loves me too. we still act like a couple but we arent really official at the moment. he is 21 and needs to figure out his life which i can understand.He hasnt been to college yet. Im around him all the time which makes him put off everything he needs to do because he wants to spend time with me. But I have trust issues now because the guy i dated before my current lied to me, said we could be friends and possibly get back together and then he slept with my best friend.He understands I have trust issues or what not but he thinks that im taking everything a bit too far. its hard because we have been fighting alot, and im scared he will find someone new, but he promised me that he wouldnt, im always paranoid about things so we always fight...if i dont stop what im doing, i know that i will definatly lose him, and i dont want him. he is my first long term relationship.When we fight, we tell each other that we are "done" but we cant seem to really end it for good. We are attached, and we do love each other. Does this seem like a messed up relationship? Is this a relationship that wont work out? Or will I need to be able to trust again before this relationship will be okay again? Please tell me what you think!

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Equus
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   " I have my Freedom , but I don't have much time " Wild Horses . The Stones                                                  Protect The Mustang .

                                       

                                                  

                                                              



 
                                                                                                             

Amanda , Sweetheart I gave you 2 thumbs up !  You made some very mature statements , yes he needs his freedom , you do not want him to resent you or regret things later in life , and yes it does lead to many divorces .  Yes you are right the same goes for you , there's a big world out there waiting for you and a new job how exciting  !  I appreciate you wanting to make me happy ,if another guy comes along by giving him a shot .  I want you to be happy and  you just never know small town or not ,who may enter your life and who's to say that one day you may leave that small town .  I wish you the best , go out and be the best Amanda you can be !     Hugs !
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But like from what he says do YOU think he really cares about me?
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Hi Amanda ,  I think he does have feelings for you .   You both need some time single to go enjoy life , have some fun has you put it , so there's no regrets later in life , he's not had much freedom and you have not either .   You do your thing , get yourself out there Girl ,  make some new friends , and look up some old ones , go and have some fun .  Change your daily routine , go to new and different  places , Blaze A New Path !
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It takes two people to make a couple... but you are both individuals and need to live your own lives.  I'd only suggest that you two don't spend so much time together, that way you will appreciate each other more when you do have your time together. 

 

Second, you can't allow your past relationship issues to affect your current relationship.  All your doing is allowing history to repeat itself.  You need to keep telling yourself that you are going to be in this relationship... going into it with an open heart and open mind.  I am speaking from experience.... my guy right now is taking everything out on me that others have done to him and it isn't fair. 

 

Unless he gives you real reason not to trust him... then trust him...
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lOvePiNk21
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wow all i can say is that i have the same problem...and i am actually dealing with meeting new people. Word of advice its hard!..because you compare these new guys to your ex and when if something goes wrong you start missing ur ex and u start thinking about him. Theres more...which ill let u know soon. But listen hun just think of it this way, everything happens for a reason.
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