I don't know what to do about my relationship?

Your profile indicates you are 19 and in your posting you indicate you are 17. In any event you are very young and inexperienced. The most important thing to ensure before discussing marriage, aside from mutual love, is that the relationship must rest on a stable foundation. Your;s is anything but stable. I thewrefore strongly suggest that you ignore your bf's crocodile tears and tell him it is over. It won't be easy for you but in the end you will realize you did the right thing. As I indicated at the beginning you are still very young and have a full life ahead of you. You will gain experience and sooner or later find someone more mature and dependable. I wish you the very best.

Haylie, Whether you are 17 or 19, you are very immature! This guy is not your boyfriend if you only see him about once a month! 45 minutes drive is nothing! Many people drive further than that to work every day.  Read over your letter and make a note of the negative things about this guy: (1) Sees you once a month; (2) Lives with Mama. (3) Doesn't have a cell phone.  (4) Doesn't have a job. (5) Says he loves you but tells others he wants to break up with you.  (6) Feels sorry for you when you throw a fit and cry. 

This is not a relationship, my dear! This is two young, inexperienced kids spending too much time on the internet, fantasizing about a "romantic relationship and future", when neither has any way of making it happen!  Honey, don't you have girlfriends to hang out with; or boys from your highschool you can date?

You need to focus on the following:  (1) Getting an education; (2) Getting a job; (3) Getting a car; (4) Being self-sufficient and successful in life.  There are millions of decent, respectful guys out there.  When you are out in the world, you will meet many of them!  Don't settle for a loser who lives with his Mama, has no cell phone, no car, no job, and is full of crap.  Please, stop all this drama.....it is so irrational; you don't own this guy!  Who cares who he talks to on the internet! He's a loser!  Talk is cheap!  It is "actions that speak louder than words!"  Today is the First Day of the Rest of your Life!  Make every day count!  Work on self-improvement, make some new friends, join a local church, get a part-time job, and please realize, "You cannot make someone something they are NOT!"  Move on, Dear!  Trust me, you will not regret it and years later you will want to thank that lady from N.C. if you heed my advice.

Alright enough already.  Look a  year now , and see what you've already gone through.  Just because he uses his mom's phone to call you, do not mean he's not using the same phone to call others! He doesn't remember it you say when he posts comments on myspace!  If you marry this guy, have kids get dumped and cheated on left with no income or child support he'll say I don't remember doing that stuff.  The only thing you should be crying about is the fact your still with this guy.  Seriously you need to talk to a pastor, a counselor, maybe your family.

Your only 17 Years old, you haven't even finished growing up yet, and your talking about marriage, that makes me want to cry.  Take it from someone who's been there done that!!!!!! I'm a grandmother now, and believe me when you make a bad uninformed mature choice, you can never go back and undo that.  You have a long life ahead of you enjoy it, and for God's sake tell the guy your done your finished it's over, and stop that crying.  You two in a realtionship is TOXIC, if not MANIPULATING.  You really need to get another guy.  A real One. The best of luck to you.

Angel

He remembers doing it..he is lying to you.he is telling his ex one thing and you another. I dont mean to be forward to hurt you but you need the truth and you also need to not be so jealous and sensitive over him telling someone he thinks she is hot.he is male and it is normal for males to find the opposite sex attractive..he may have been wrong for lying but he didnt cheat that you know of...the fact he is still talking to his ex raises flags for me and him saying he doesnt remember all the time...anyway you cant force him to love you and it isnt healthy for you to have his pw and sn and be snooping in his accounts..everyone desrves respect and privacy..if you dont trust him..LEAVE