Understand, good or bad, you may always have feelings for your ex. Understand, too, that his feelings for you weren't the same. It hurts like heck when you come to that realization, but just as you may not have felt the same for someone who was totally in love with you, it's just the way the world turns. (Or the heart aches...)
Also, enjoy your relationship now. Don't let your ex ruin what you have now by dwelling on how it didn't work out.
I've heard this saying: Acid only hurts the vessel it's in. So while you are off hating your ex and getting an ulcer over all the injustices done to you, he's living his days feeling good in whatever he's doing.
You do the same. Feel good! Let the past go and enjoy your present now. You ex wasn't good enough for you.
Good luck to you.
*Kat
About your brother, do you want to tell him to get back at your ex (whom you've been separated from for over a year, keep that in mind) or do you feel you need to warn him?
Your ex and your brother's current girlfriend may have been "something" at one time, but what if it was a long time ago and is not still going on? And maybe has already been worked out between them. Finding out these things and telling these things have consequences.
I don't know what to say. You are obviously still obsessed (and I don't mean that in a wrong way) with your ex, so would telling your brother be out of love and concern or one last good jab you can get in on your ex?
(Are you and your brother close?) If you think your brother is (still) being cheated on and you don't want him hurt, telling him "just wanted you to know that I heard....." is one thing. Telling him with only your ex in mind (ha ha -- got YOU, didn't I?) would be only self serving.
Again, I wish the best for you.
ya i know, but you cant help your feelings ya know
Be honest and be true to yourself.
You are very confused and ambivalent. You cannot love and hate at the same time. I think that you need to see a Psychologist or a Psychotherapist.
~ Snotternonsense BooNeathTreer ~
S.N.O.T.S., Inc.
I am living proof that you can love and hate at the same time. You love the man he once was, the man you thought he was. You hate who he really is. Problem is, those two men look exactly alike. You just have to keep reminding yourself that the man he is now, is not the man you fell in love with. And the man he is now will never, ever, ever be the man you loved again.
that's a great point, but when ever i try moving on, and forgetting about him, somehow he get's brought back up. like for instance. i was having a great time with my current boyfriend. i hadn't thought about my ex in a long time, then out of the blue, on a chat room on my phone, this girl started texting me, wanting to know small details about me, then she was like, oh, well i know your ex, and i think you guys should get back together, or you should call him. i contiplated over it for a while, then i texted him, and we talked for a few days, and every thing seemed to be going great, and i thought that we could be friends, like we once promised each other we would do if we ever broke up. However, then a week later, he just stoped texting me, or answering my calls, for no reason. so i was like ok, whatever, and stoped thinking about him. then just less than a month ago, some of my friends said that he always goes and parties over at their places, and that they didnt even want him, or his friend there, and that he was always drunk, and acting and saying stupid stuff, mainly about me. he is telling people that the reason we broke up is because i supposidly cheated on him, which is totaly false. i was so in love with him while we were together, that i couldnt even see anyother men in anysort of light like that. anyways, now some people are telling me that he was sleeping with this really nasty girl, in the same time frame that me and him were dating. i just dont know what is going on. whenever i am thinking about him, i never hear from him, about him, or see any of his family, but just the second that i am happy, moving on, or not thinking about him, that's all i hear, and constantly running into his family, or someone. you can also text me back or blog me on my myspace account...my username is amberzeekers21, or if you put in amberzeekers21 in the google search, there are other chat rooms that i talk to people in. thanks for your help
And that is the time that you ignore him. When things are going well, and his name gets brought up, turn away and stay the course. You don't need him. You have found happiness elsewhere. He isn't good for you, or you would still be with him. Enough is enough, Honey. Let him go. What do you care if he was sleeping with someone else. You aren't together anymore. He is using your friends and his friends to screw with your head. DON'T LET HIM. If you hear his name, shrug it off and forget about it. You need to say goodbye once and for all. Take any of his things you still have and burn them. Make a final farewell. Scratch him off the list. You will feel better once you truly get him out of your head.
Thanks, i think that you have given me some of the best advise i have recieved so far. thank you!:)
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