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I know this girl who is amazing... absolutely ...

I know this girl who is amazing... absolutely amazing. Shes everything I have ever wanted in anybody. At first when I got to know her we both really liked each other, she wasnt too physically attracted to me because im skinny, but that didnt seem to bother her too much. After talking with her for hours she would say things like "youre the perfect man" or "marry me" (kind of as a joke but whatever..) and then I saw her the other day and we gave each other this amazing long-lasting hug... after that I talked to her again and everything was going great until all of a sudden, she seemed sad and uninterested... i didnt know what was going on and stupidly i took some advice from my friends to just ask her out on a date as fast and as soon as possible... i told them it was a bad idea but they convinced me through confusion, so I did but she said that she just wasnt ready for a serious relationship and that theres is "this guy" that she kinda likes? Please understand that this girl is PERFECT to me, not in the way one would assume in fact shes so different from other girls which is probably why i am so alike to her. Im at a point where I think that if I let this go and forget about her I will regret it forever! I definitely need some help.

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"But I am trusting you, O Lord, saying, 'You are my God! My future is in your hands.'" Ps. 31:14-15

Well i know a lot of people that have been in your situation and they like the person so much that they end up being pushy. Saying like "your so beautiful we should date" and constantly giving compliments in hopes for the girl to feel so flattered and "fall inlove with them" so i really hope your not like that cause that turns me off major. Theres not much you can do now since theres this "other guy" and shes not ready for a serious relationship. Continue to talk to her and act like nothing has happend, just be there for her and be her friend while shes going through a time of uncertainty. You have obviously made your feeling known to her since you asked her on a date, so theres no need to bring them up again until shes ready to talk about it. Just dont allow your feelings to be crushed if she does decide to date him or talk to him a lot more..it takes a girl awhile to find out what kind of man is best for her. And if you guys are perfect for eachother and are meant to be, that guy doesnt even have a chance to begin with.

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Live simply, love generously, care deeply,

speak kindly, leave the rest to God.

Hi Jonny,

I could tell that you really really like this girl because she is just PERFECT for you. Well, she told you that she is interested in this other guy. I really believe that you should respect the fact that she likes someone else most possibly as a boyfriend. Just let her know how you feel about her and if things don't work out with this other person, then you are going to be there for her. You cannot force yourself on her. She has the right to be with whoever she likes to be with. Just treat her as a good friend now and if that relationship with the other man works out, then as a FRIEND, you should be happy for her and wish her all the luck in the world. We have to realize that we cannot have everything that we like to have. Take care.

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Hmmm there are several things that may have happened here:

1) You may have received mixed messages from her...ie. she was flirting with you because that's what people do.. and you took it too seriously.

2) She does believe you are attractive but she has just started a relationship she feels has a future...

3) She may not legitimately like you in the way you like her... she targeted you as friendship material and as non threatening...

Basically what you may end up regretting is not respecting that she has said no to a relationship with you right now...so:

What to do...give it some time... you have done the brave thing and already told her how you feel... so the only thing you can do is remain her friend for a while and see what happens...if it is meant to be it will happen...don't try to force a relationship on her... it won't work... it will seem desperate and girls don't want a desperate guy... act like you don't care about the rejection and she is more prone to wonder why...

Whatever you do don't start stalking her and telling her she is the only one for you and that kind of stuff...that will frighten the crap out of her... just go on with your life as usual... make other female friends and see how she pans out...like I said it may just be timing...maybe you will end up going out with her in a few years... you never know really...

I hope this helps

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