What is wrong?

Oh my god!!! That was sooo much detail given there........I think he doesn't have enough balls!!!! to actually tell you straight out, instead his mum has to tell you...I think seriously you have to forget about him and move on, because if he is lying to the other girl about you then what has he been lying to you about???? I know when you care about someone so deeply you dont see any bad in them.....dont feel insecure go and get a life and show him that you can too move on with with yourself. (Sorry to sound so blunt) but in all honesty I think it is a true fact. Goodluck and dont let it get you down.

You need to stop all contact with Jeffrey NOW. He clearly is using his mother to get across to you what he cannot himself. While this is extremely immature and childish of him, you need to take heed to what has been said and leave him alone. It is hard to let go of someone you love, I know that because I've experienced a broken heart myself. But it must be done. You even said it yourself that he's got something he's trying to work out with "some other girl." He is clearly NOT interested in getting back together anytime soon and is not ready to be friends with you. He's clearly using the time you do spend together for his own sexual pleasure. Do you want to become the booty call? Do you want to be the crazy ex who cannot let go?

You sound like a very nice person; you will get over this. There are two articles I used to read often that would help me get through the hardest times when I wanted to call my ex-boyfriend. You can read them: Letting Go of Love - Part I and Letting Go of Love - Part II. I hope you will read them and take heed to their advice.

You need to stop all contact with Jeffrey NOW. He clearly is using his mother to get across to you what he cannot himself. While this is extremely immature and childish of him, you need to take heed to what has been said and leave him alone. It is hard to let go of someone you love, I know that because I've experienced a broken heart myself. But it must be done. You even said it yourself that he's got something he's trying to work out with "some other girl." He is clearly NOT interested in getting back together anytime soon and is not ready to be friends with you. He's clearly using the time you do spend together for his own sexual pleasure. Do you want to become the booty call? Do you want to be the crazy ex who cannot let go?

You sound like a very nice person; you will get over this. There are two articles I used to read often that would help me get through the hardest times when I wanted to call/write/see/email my ex-boyfriend. You can read them: Letting Go of Love - Part I and Letting Go of Love - Part II. I hope you will read them and take heed to their advice.

I also started a private journal where everytime I felt the urge to contact/call/write/see/email my ex-boyfriend, I would write about the urge, how I'm feeling or what it was that I felt so compelled to tell him. It's been almost one year since we broke up, and I haven't been in contact with him for over 10 months; and I have 3 full journals to prove it. It's gotten easier, as the time passes and I've started seeing a professional counselor to talk about moving on. It's all been very helpful; I'd suggest you do the same.

Good luck!

 Hi Honey

Men and women are so different, in the way we think and the way we go about doing things.

Firstly one thing you should know is that this is not about YOU this is what is going on with Jeffery and how he is handling this situation. My feeling is that he does have feelings for you and because their is another girl involved he can not get his head round what to do so to him it seems easier to push you away albeit through his Mum which is not very masculine or adult like.

What I would normally suggest to my clients is that the first thing is to communicate with each other and in this case it seems he is not prepared for that as he is letting his Mother take control. I ask myself when is he going to take control of his life and be the Man because if he continues as he is will never have the true relationship a Man and a Woman should have. It does sound to me from her replies to you that she is a very controlling woman which is not a good space for a woman to be in.

How would it be if you let him go with love and know that sometimes people come into our life for a reason and maybe they will only stay for a short time and what we need to ask ourselves is "What did I learn from that relationship"? And if at anytime he feels  he wants to see you again it will be for the right reasons and not through you pushing him. He will respect you a lot more for it, believe me honey.

I know when you are young and you give your love to someone and you think this is the one, that it can be hard when the other person is not behaving in the same way. Through my experiences I have learnt that you need to go through the hard times with men to find out who you truly are and what love is really all about.

Bear in mind is that men hate needy or controlling women. What I found out through my Relationship Training is that women are looking from their men for  certainity, to be cherished and complimented. It is obvious that Jeff is not at this stage yet!

Would you want someone who did not give you these things?

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First, I was all ready to tell you Jeff really did not mean what he said about the friend thing. He used that hoping to get you to back off without hurting you. Instead you took friendship thing and ran with it including showing up at his home. Just to ask if he wanted to hang out? I mean come on..so what if he didn't show up? That is until Mama not the Daddy emails you..that put the icing on the cake and you can't see it. Jeff is a Mamas boy, has no backbone, and has her making his decisions?? I pity the next girl friend and god help her if Mama doesn't think shes good enough for him either. Unfortunately, you won't be able to contact him to get a more direct answer if that's possible. Just be glad you got out of it..sure its painful at first but men are like buses, miss one another will come along.

Girl you are looooong winded.I was all set with a "to hell with him" comment but I see you've patched things up.Well,good luck hon!