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me and my girlfriend has been fighting alot here lately i think its cause i've changed....i use to joke around and everything now i just take everything serious to serious.....what should i do


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You are only 18 but you are starting to mature now, as we mature we do tend to take things more serious. We start thinking more about the future. A good job, education, making relationship decisions, raising a family and thousands of other subjects swirl through our minds.

 

It is time for you to really start making decisions that will affect you the rest of your life and I think you are starting to realize that.

 

It may be best to have a serious talk with her to see if you can determine what it is that you are really fighting about. Communication in a relationship is of utmost importance.

 

One of the hardest things to handle in a relationship is conflict. While a good and fair fight can clear the air and help you to feel closer to your lover, many fights are just hurtful and destructive. Fights that never go anywhere, that are repeated year after year, or that leave you feeling awful about yourself are not going to help your relationship. Those are the kinds of fights we need to take another look at, and find out what is going on underneath. This is true for any conflict that doesn't feel right, not just those you have with your lover.

With most fights, there are layers of what we mean, feel, intend, hope for, and believe, and what we actually say. We may only say a little of how we feel, or we may even say the opposite of how we're feeling on a much deeper level than the surface. Problems arise when we don't come from the deeper levels.

 



One of the most complex interactions we face in life is the relationship with our partners. There is often some initial spark which brings two people together, but for a relationship to thrive it requires communication, cooperation, and compromise.

 

Or you could just lighten up and take life as it comes.

 

Good luck and best wishes in everything you do. 

 

 


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If you've changed, and you don't think it's going to work out with your girlfriend, you need to tell her this. If you know why you've changed and if this change is permanent, telling her this would be helpful as well.


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Start by being a little more... fun... there is nothing wrong with having a little fun and joking around with someone. But you can just be serious when you need to be. You need to have a balance... fun when its the right time, and serious when you need to be.

then if you guys are still fighting, then maybe you need to talk to her about what is bothering her.


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try to relax and let loose a little, if you truely love her! good luck!


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Dude Having a good job and looking into the future is not what  you need to be doing right now. Right now most importantly you need to be living your life and having fun. Being stressed out over stupid petty shit that your girlfriend probly started that fight about in the first place is not worth it.  Go to school get a part time job, live at your parents and just dont worry about it. You and your girlfriend dont need to be serous your most likely just alot more stressed out lately, I mean if you want to Get more serious on a personal level thats fine but your young be a fucking kid and dont worry about what other people have to say.


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